Long story 😂

Rewind almost three years ago I was with my husband (ex now) in a terrible relationship. Way too young to be married and definitely too ignorant in what a successful marriage was actually made of. We had been together for about two years at this point and things were really rocky. He didn’t speak to me half to time, he was obsessed with video games, the majority of the time I would even go to sleep alone and when it was time for me to get up he would just be going down. So needless to say our love life was nonexistent. Long story short I thought sex fixed everything at the time and that if we had sex maybe just maybe he would show me some type of gratitude or even attention. Well, That lead to me being pregnant. It only takes one time! 😂

Of course it only lead to making our relationship fall apart even quicker because lord knows bringing a baby into this world will not save a marriage alone.

He used to call and bombard me with questions like “do you think you’ll be a good mom? Because you’re a terrible wife so I doubt that will work!” “Where will you live? Work? You’ll just mooch off every one to get by because you’re a terrible person” mind you these are the nice things he would say.

It go so bad I actually had to move states over 700 miles away 7 1/2 months pregnant Because he would show up to my moms wondering why I hadn’t had an abortion yet.

So a couple months later I had a beautiful baby boy who is now about to turn two. He is the only amazing thing that came from that marriage. He is my saving grace.

After I had him, it had been over a year since I had been in any type of relationship that wasn’t mental or physical abusive and I wanted to get back out there.

I used to get criticized for only being a couple months postpartum and wanting something from the opposite sex. Not necessarily sex but just being able to talk and laugh and go out. But unfortunately even in 2016* it’s still frowned upon to be anything other than a mother when your have a baby. I truly believe that you can still lead an adventurous life and be a great mom. I mean hell I didn’t even go anywhere, (until I met my now husband) online apps are the best.

Being a single mom I will tell you is hard as hell. I felt very alone. I guess I was just looking for validation. Also reassurance that it would all work out.

At this point wanting some type of intimacy, having a newborn, still receiving any and all forms of negative communication from his deadbeat (who still hasn’t come to meet his son) through this hell I found something I wasn’t even looking for. An angel fell from the heavens.

Y’all, when I tell you I’ve never met a man like this one, y’all have no clue.

What I did to deserve him I have no idea but I’m pretty sure I’m in debt to whom ever sent him down. Talk about gorgeous. Muscular. Motivated and passionate. Best of all he is amazing with our son. ❤️

We are celebrating our 2 years together in February and we just recently got married. I’ve never been happier. He is the best father,husband,partner and just all around amazing man.

So long story short, just because you’re a single mom going through hell doesn’t mean you will always be that way. Everything is temporary and I’m not saying it takes a man to help you out of the depths of hell you’re definitely strong enough to do it yourself but damn it’s nice to have a helping hand.

Don’t feel like if you’re in this position that you can’t seek out your own love life either. Don’t let people dictate how you live your life. Just remember at the end of the day you’re the one that has to live with your decisions.