HELP!! Falling Out of Love

I'll try and make this as quick, painless, and to the point.

I'll start with this. I love my husband and I know he loves me. We have a BEAUTIFUL 9 month old daughter. The problem? I don't think we're in love with each other anymore. We've been together since we were 21 so we have matured a lot and I think we've just grown into two different people.

We went through some marital problems when I was pregnant - to the point that divorce was on the table while I was 8 months pregnant. He emotionally cheated and it's possible it could have gone further if I didn't find out. This is an example of a reoccurring issue with my husband. Whenever I need him to be responsible and supportive, I get shit. That was the most dramatic it has ever been, but you get the point.

We've been to counseling, identified the issues that led to the emotional cheating, and moved on from that. Counseling helped the communication... a little. I support him in whatever he wants to do and I make an effort to show him that I appreciate him and he is loved. I make sure that he has a hot meal when he gets home AFTER I've worked all day and picked up/dropped off our little one at daycare. In return I get, "I don't want that for dinner," AFTER we spoke early in the day and he said that what I was cooking is fine. Have to do all DD's stuff on my own. He helps in the morning, once I wake him up and remind him what time I need to leave to drop her off and get to work on time.

I don't nag because it gets us nowhere but it's these things that constantly add up that make me question my marriage. There's no friendship, no team, no intimacy-barely a kiss goodbye in the morning before work and I don't want to live my life that way. I feel like we're still here out of convenience. I wonder if we even really like each other most of the time.

Any advice or similar situations ladies?

Since I've posted anonymously, I'll go ahead and give some replies to questions or suggestions I'm sure I'll get.

-We were together for 3 years before getting married

-We've tried date night.. We end up arguing about where to go or what to do

-Anyone that suggests I should suck it up and that's the life of a wife and mother can have several seats. My household is not a traditional household and if we're both bringing home the bacon, our asses will take turns cooking it

-Counseling has become almost a mute point. Going over the same thing to the point it feels like rationalizing behavior

-I've sat down and told him I just want my friend back and then I realized we were never really friends to begin with. Other conversations end up in frustration with no conclusion other than he wants to stay married and he wants his family to be together- the latter I believe to be the only true statement