should i tell her??

Question

so me and my boyfriend have been dating about a month already and i really like him.. but i havent told my mom about him because im 16 and hes 21 and he lives in maryland and i live in texas.. so very far distance.. and my mom doesnt approve of me dating older guys.. so i dont know if i should tell her... can someone help me???

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My question is what does a 21 year old want with a 16 year old?? You’re under the age of consent, even if you guys aren’t having sex.  I doubt he’ll wait until you’re 17 to be able to have sex w you if he came to your area tbh. You probably need to stick with guys that are your own age.

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I mean personally I would say you should break it off with this guy actually. The reason guys who are older go for girls your age is because they think they can get more from you while giving less. They know that no matter what at your age, girls are usually pretty naive and idealistic, and not have the experience to be able to tell dangerous behaviors in a guy. They know it’ll be easier to pressure you into things. 
If you intend to continue things, you should tell you Mom just because she will be able to help and support you through good and bad, and she is someone who truly has only your safety and best interests at heart. 
But I would strongly encourage you to reevaluate the circumstances with this guy.

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Yeaaaah. While I have no issues with the age gap, the issue falls with the fact that you are a minor — even under the age of consent here in Texas (17). You really should probably break up with him because he could get into some very real trouble if you all do anything (like exchanging nudes or sexting). If you are only basically like pen pals for the time being, then there isn’t necessarily a problem I don’t guess...but talking is about all you can do right now.

should i tell her??

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