how to deal with a death

My uncle has had cancer for a while now and we have been told he only has a few days left. Ive never dealt with a death in the family before (im 20) and i dont know how to handle this.

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Th

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I'm so sorry, I had the same with my gran and it was awful. I don't believe that there's any right way to grieve that happens to everyone, it just does. Spend time with family and let yourself feel whatever you feel. When I lost my gran I was okay, but months later I'd see people who looked like her or I'd go to places that reminded me of her and it was hard. I ended up in tears at a family member renewing their vows because they did it at the church that my grans funeral was in, and it brought it all up. I know other people who were smiling and joking at the funerals of close relatives and seemed completely okay with everything, I saw some who stopped taking care of themselves after someone close passed. Go with what you feel is best, don't be worried about letting your emotions out because they always do eventually. Come and talk to us on Glow and let it all out if you need to

Ka

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There is no specific way to handle it. Each person is different. But it’s not easy! My prayers are with you & your family!

Te

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Soak up every single moment of family time and don’t be afraid to show how you’re truly feeling. I’m so sorry to hear you and your family are going through this.

Sp

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as I've gotten older I've lost many relatives, the most painful being my dad. with my dad I held it together because I knew I needed to be strong in front of him. I spent as much time with him as I could, comforted him in any way I could and had my breakdown after he passed.

Br

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everyone handles death differently. my biggest advise is to let yourself feel exactly what you're feeling. don't close it off and don't listen to people that tell you otherwise. I have been through years of therapy (because of other issues but family members dying was definitely brought up a lot). each therapist I've seen has told me not to close myself off and to just be honest about how I'm feeling. the only way to heal is to address the pain

Er

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I watched my Aunty pass of cancer 5 years ago. It’s tough but the best thing you can do is be at the hospital as much as you can and be around your family and friends and support each other. I was able to spend some last moments with my Aunty while she was still with it and tell her I loved her (they give morphine at the end so they aren’t in pain which meant she was in and out of consciousness). Don’t leave anything unsaid and let yourself feel what you need to feel. For me that helped with the acceptance of the situation and by the time the funeral came I had really dealt with most of the grief.

am

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Take time to grieve. Thankfully you have time to say goodbye.