My husband and I told my mom, brother and grandparents we’re expecting for Christmas. We aren’t telling anyone else until 12 weeks bc I’m high risk. I will be 7 weeks tomorrow. When we told them, we were very adamant this is not to be repeated until I’m 12 weeks and we feel confident enough to announce.

Well tonight we were standing around talking after a movie and a friend of the family goes, “am I supposed to know you’re pregnant or...?”

And I was just completely stunned.

I was so angry I busted into tears the moment we all parted ways. I’m angry that my brother couldn’t keep his mouth shut and that he will potentially ruin something that is supposed to be mine and my husband’s business to tell.

I was also already angry because he ruined the initial surprise to start with because my mom had to spend the day we got into town busting him out of jail instead of setting up a fun way to tell my grandparents. Then, because we didn’t know if things were going to go sideways, we didn’t know if we should even tell them, but decided to go through with it on Christmas.

And this has been the story of my life for five years: I try to live my life in a way I can be proud of and all of my milestones or accomplishments get overshadowed by my brothers poor decisions.

To top it all off, tonight ended in my mom somehow screaming at me about how much I’ve changed ever since I met my husband - right in front of him btw. Which had nothing to do with what happened.

Which also led to her pity party about my brother being back on drugs, but she’s the only one around to deal with it.

Am I over reacting? I feel like I have every right to be angry and hurt and upset. This is my first child. It took us 11m to conceive and the day after I found out I was pregnant I also found out I have a blood clotting disorder. So It’s been a mixed bag of excitement and fear and uncertainty. Now I’m worried because it was such a stressful night and my anxiety was so high, I just don’t want that to effect the baby.