What should I do?

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I am taking classes at a community college and all throughout high school I was a straight A student and my first semester at the college I got all A’s. Over summer I got my first B in public speaking and my parents freaked out, telling me I didn’t work hard enough for it and I wouldn’t get into Med school if I had a B. This semester I worked really hard but I was so stressed it affected my grades and I ended up with a B in biology and English and a C in trigonometry. I can’t tell my parents because they will just get mad at me again. I told them I got a B in trigonometry and an A in everything else. I know that they are going to find out eventually but I can’t tell them. This has made me stressed, worsen my anxiety, and made me depressed. To make it all worse, my sister is at college and she’s getting all A’s without even trying. I don’t know what to do. Should I tell them, or should I just hope they never find out?

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They can’t find out about your grades unless you allow them to. At my college we can decide if our parents can see our information or not. And you shouldn’t let your parents stress you out about grades when you only got a B.

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As someone who has failed a few courses due to stress and my job, I can say it sucks, but it's not the end of the world and it won't keep you from getting into grad school. So many people have gone on to be very successful in life despite their failures in college. just focus on your mental health and try to organize your tasks and time in a way that gives you a chance to de-stress. My parents are a lot like yours, and they were in for a rude awakening when both my sister and I started failing classes due to stress and deteriorating mental health. It's not as serious as they make it seem. Prioritize you first.

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I had a very similar situation my first year in college, except instead of a sister I had a brother with all A's, who graduated valedictorian, and was on the early acceptance list for pharmacy school. It's hard being the young sibling with the outstanding older sibling but all that matters is that you know you did your best. The best advice I can give is be honest. Yeah your parents are probably going to give you the whole "You can do better we're so disappointed" speech but it's better than lying and having them find out later.. because that's just adding more stress for you. Let them know that them being so hard on you isn't helpful. But whatever you do don't let this get you down! College is a weird transition from high school and it's stressful enough. You need to do you and focus on your happiness. And girl congrats on your grades because speech and trig and bio are all pretty tough classes!!!!!!

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