LIVID...boyfriends mom.

So this is long, but worth the read. The other day I posted on here saying that my boyfriend’s mom has been acting very horrible towards me. She would say snarky comments about me, ignore me, and it almost seems as if she’s trying to “compete” with me for my boyfriend’s attention. ANYWAYS, yesterday I found something that almost confirmed everything I suspected.

So I got home from a LONG day of EMT school...hadn’t been home for 13 hours & was hungry & tired. I walk in the house & my bf’s mom completely disregards me again. Whatever. I go into my bfs room. We’re just chilling & I go on his phone to clear my text saying “I’m here”. I exit & see a weird ass text from his mom. I click on it & see a HUGE paragraph that starts with “Relationships:”. I’m like...okay here we go.

I click on it & just read the first part before my bf came into the room. It said stuff like:

The first 6 months of a relationship is pure bliss...when it hits 3 years, you start to see the person’s true side. That you have to make sure you want to be with this person & blah blah blah. I was kinda upset. My bf & I had an argument 2 days prior over something so dumb. His mom heard & this is why she’s saying this & has been treating me even more poorly. My bf saw I was upset from reading it & comforted me. When I asked why she would send this to him, he said that she said it was part of a “book” she was writing...or that is what she told him. I found it funny how this “book” happened to be very similar towards our relationship.

The night continued completely fine. His mom continued to ignore me all night...that’s fine because I could care less at this point. My bf & I decided to take a shower. I finished first & was waiting for him. As I was waiting I pulled up what she sent him again so I could read the whole thing this time. My bf didn’t mind, he didn’t even read it. THIS is where it gets worse.

After the first part, she basically wrote that my bf needs to make sure that I’m the one (note that she didn’t say my name directly). That you don’t want someone who is grumpy all the time, who cries, who yells, etc. That in the years to come if he has kids, imagine being someone who does that & you can’t do anything about it & have to be miserable for years and years. That you shouldn’t be with someone who you argue with. IT GETS WORSE. This part made me super livid. She basically said that he needs to write down all the things he wants to find in a perfect girl & find that person. That it may seem impossible but it will happen. She said that she dumped a lot of guys who were garbage & after she did they were nothing to her & she could care less. She said that 3 years is the cut off time when you decide if you want to be with this person or not. And that it would just be 3 years of a mistake just to find someone who is perfect. That if he finds one flaw in me to forget about me & find someone new. I could not believe what I was reading you guys.

I was SO frustrated & still am but am trying to keep my cool while being in the same room as her. Like who’s mom says that? We had one argument over something so stupid, got over it within 10 mins, & we’re back to loving each other 15 mins later. And now she’s coincidentally writing a “book” about relationships that’s directed towards us. It makes me so livid because she basically telling my bf why he should find someone else because I’m not “perfect”. The thing is that she thinks she knows our relationship but she does NOT. She doesn’t know what happens behind closed doors, what we talk about, or the secrets & deep connections we share. For her to say all these things definitely seemed not okay to me. If she wanted to make sure we were okay, than she should have asked my bf straight up. Ask him if he’s happy...if he is than great! If he isn’t, than listen to him & try to encourage him. Not say this crap. I hope she had fun taking the time out of her day to write about our relationship. Trust me, i could write a whole ass book on so called “advice” on her marriage & how she’s a lazy alcoholic. But I don’t stoop that low. I hate drama but this was too good not to share. What do you guys think??? Should I be this upset ?