Thick hymen

My boyfriend and I had sex this week end. We did anal because I told him I was a bit afraid of breaking my hymen and that would hurt.

He told me that when he went down on me earlier he felt my hymen with his tongue. He also tried to poke me with his finger. And for a moment tried to penetrate me but I stopped him. but he said that I may have a very thick hymen and it would hurt me too much.

Omg why me? I’m already a bit anxious about getting penetrated but having a thick hymen is even scarier.

What do you think?