Just need some opinions

My daughter will be two in February. I was in the process of planning this big party at the bounce house inflatable place with food and all the works. Well my brothers and sister have gotten into it with my parents over some stuff but I refuse to participate in the drama. (They had a separate Christmas party for my brother and didn't invite me and my parents and told my sister not to tell us about it, and then didn't go to my parents for nye like they do every year) I FaceTime my parents everyday so they can see my kid and try to visit at least twice a week to make sure they have what they need. And are active in my kids life. None of my 3 brothers or sister do this nor do they visit often, they claim they are too busy so they get accused of playing favorite to my kid and to me...of course there is more to the story but it's long and drawn out so I'll just get to the point here....I decided that I'm not having her a party that her poppa and I will take her on a little over night trip to the aquarium and get her some gifts and a cake and call it a day. Is this selfish of me to skip a big party to avoid the unnecessary drama that might be there? I mean she's gonna be two will she remember a blow out party vs a little family trip?