Grab the popcorn my mil doesn’t like me 🙄

Let me just start this by saying this woman has always been nice to me. More than nice to me. Even bought me a brand new car which I would pay back. Both my fiancé and I lived (we moved 6 days ago) at home and we decided we would move in together along with a friend. Now I do not have a job as I’m studying nursing but I have been looking for a part time job for quite some time.

Also before the story my fiancé is 25 & has already been married and divorced.

2 weeks ago my partner and I went to his mums house after looking at what is now our home to tell his mother that we liked the place and we were going to apply. She seemed okay at first. I went upstairs to start the application process, my SO followed after about 20 mins and told me he “couldn’t do it” so basically his mum talked him out of it.

However after about 2 minutes of telling me he couldn’t he stormed back down stairs to tell her “he really wanted to move”

As they were talking the conversation got a bit heated and they then started to yell at one another meaning I could hear what they were saying. Then I started to hear her taking about me. How I didn’t have a job, how she bought me a car (she likes to hold it over my head) , how I didn’t attend an interview for a job over 50 minutes away as I didn’t want to travel that far. That I’m not good for him, that I’m exactly like his ex (who was a gold digger and got him in 30 grand debt ) and how I didn’t want to live with her at her house because I didn’t feel comfortable enough to but I’ll sleep over.

In my opinion. There’s a difference between staying somewhere than living somewhere and calling it home. (I feel like there was more, but can’t think of it at the moment).... oh that’s it she claims I’m different (idk how) since I miscarried in November.

So I’m sitting up stairs thinking “ do I sit here and take this” “do I go say something?” “Do I leave?” Bless my SO At every turn he was defending me. So eventually I packed my things. Took the car key off my keychain. Walked down stairs and said “I’m going to leave. It’s probably for the best” as I walk towards the door she yelled “that’s right the best thing to do is leave when things get tough” uhh sorry what? You’re calling me out for being a coward yet you couldn’t say this to my face? Makes sense.

So basically I went into her room and had it out with her. In no way did I attack her. I defended myself to what she had to say. I thanked her for being so kind. But I did not go after her. I gave her the car key back and walked out.

My SO chased me. And we’re okay. My trouble is. I don’t want to see this woman. I don’t want anything to do with her. And it puts my fiancé in an awful spot. The thing is. This is how she is to 3/4 of her kids partners. There’s only one she likes and she makes it extremely obvious.

If I had provoked this in anyway I would have apologised (reluctantly) but I would have for the sake of my fiancé. But I haven’t done anything.

Ever. I always help her. Do things for her. Even when my fiancé isn’t around. ALWAYS. Even now. They had a power outage in her area and I made my fiancé ring her to make sure she was ok (as she lives alone). But I’m still the bad one. I just don’t know what to do.

And look if you made it this far in the post I commend you 👏🏼