Venting/ Advice please!!

Lately ive been having some issues w my best friends. They live a few provinces over and moved there several years ago in the middle of high school. We make it a point each year to visit and we talk and text and everyday. Their names for the sake of this post is Dannie and Carla. They made a mutual friend where they live now who’s name is Allie. I don’t know Allie personally since we’ve never met but I’m somewhat friends w her through Snapchat and texting. This year Dannie decided that she wanted to go to Cancun for our trip because Allie was from Mexico and recommended it. It was going to be all 4 of us. But then one day Dannie came out to me as gay expressing that she had feelings for Allie and that Allie did too so the trip wasnt happening anymore because things were awkward. She didn’t confide this to Carla because she didnt feel comfortable telling her which is fair. The trip not happening was a relief anyways because I didn’t have that kind of money to spend and neither did Carla. Carla assumed the trip wasn’t panning out because of money issues all around. But Dannie promised me that Carla would be told everything that’s happening between her and Allie because otherwise it would really hurt Carla’s feelings if she found out some other way. And it would hurt all our friendships.

Anyways fast forward to how all of a sudden I basically get this courtesy call yesterday saying that they were going to continue w the trip and were trying to spare my feelings. It was really shitty because they knew I couldn’t come and yet if this was a trip that was meant for all of us then why wasn’t there a compromise for something more affordable? I then came to find out that Dannie just wanted to go somewhere to “relax” and that this trip clearly wasn’t about meeting up. But it meant at least that things were okay between her and Allie.

Continuing on, I’m not the type to keep things to myself and am very honest about how I feel. So After that call I sent them a message telling them politely that I was hurt and upset and just felt not included. But that i didn’t want them to change any of their plans or do anything. I just wanted to say how I felt. They took it well and understood where I was coming from.

By this time I assumed that Carla knew the situation between Dannie and Allie. So I asked Dannie if she had told Carla. Dannie said no that she hadn’t and then it all of a sudden made a lot of sense why Dannie chose Cancun and why this trip was about “relaxing” and not about us all getting together. Because if it was about us seeing each other there are a lot more inclusive and affordable options for everyone. I realized Carla didn’t know she was going to be a third wheel and that if she found out too late about the secret being kept from her she’d feel like crap to have been tagging along on this trip.

So while all of this has been happening I’ve been upset about this whole thing because I’m keeping something from My best friend Carla and I feel like shit because due to past incidents we know that her being the last in “the know” makes her feel not included and upset. ( I also feel shitty still about this whole we’re still going without you trip too and I need to deal w that 😩)

Anyhoo, I completely understand that it’s never my place to tell Dannie’s coming out because that’s her story to tell. But this whole situation is stressing me out. I don’t know where to go from this point and I just needed to vent because I cant talk to either of my best friends and I think Carla should know what’s up. And I don’t think Dannie ever will tell with the way she responded to when I asked.

If you’ve read all of this bless you. I’m sorry for my atrocious rant. If you have any advice please do tell ❤️