my heart is breaking for my husband's best friend and his lovely wife as they found out that their first child will likely not make it more then a few hours after birth. we have known this for a few months and are expecting a little one of our own just a couple of months after their little girl is to be born...my husband is especially crushed as they are more like family then friends and we have actually kept quiet about our own pregnancy out of respect for their situation. we found out a couple of weeks ago that we too are expecting another girl and chose a name from her with the help of our daughter. today they announced their name for their angel baby and they chose the same middle name as we did. I am crushed...we love the name we chose. it's both beautiful and heartbreaking that my husband and his best friend are so close that they both fell in love with the same name but now I don't know if it's right if we use it. I don't want to have them hurt by our choice of name. I know it's just the same middle name but idk what to do. I feel like my husband's sorrow for our friends has taken away from our own happiness about our new baby. I know it's selfish but what about our baby? why can't we share our joy?