Do you feel like women have to take care of their SO 24/7?

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What I mean by this is do you feel that women should stay home 24/7 (no job) clean, cook, laundry, take care of the kids, etc. While the men do nothing but work? 
I’m asking because my SO & I️ just moved in together and my grandma was criticizing me because I️ had no makeup on and my SO was about to come home. She & many said that women should always look pretty for their guy when they come home because it’s not “flattering” to not have your hair/makeup done. 
I️ clean, do laundry, etc. BUT it’s so hard for me to learn how to cook. Its just something I’ve never been good at... Grandma said men leave for these reasons.  
She also told me that I️ need to quit my job because men are suppose to pay all the bills.. which again, is bullshit. Relationships are suppose to be teamwork, not one sided. 
My SO & I️ take turns. When we go out to eat, I️ pay one day, he pays the next. I️ buy the groceries, he buys the next. He does the laundry, I️ wash the dishes.. you know? It’s always been that way between us. 
Tbh when I️ really think about it, I️ just feel like I’m disappointing my SO now. I’m sorry that I️ don’t look like fucking Cinderella everyday!!! I️ just always felt that if men only will stay if you do EVERYTHING for them then it’s not really a relationship, I️ feel like I’m tending to a baby. I️ just feel if we are both grown, both hard working, we can do it together faster. Not having all the house work thrown on myself.

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You’re his partner not his mother x

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That’s some 1950s bullshit. In my relationships, things need to be equal otherwise I’m not doing it. I’m not a maid and I sure as hell ain’t your mama.

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If it’s working for you then never mind grandma. She’s from a totally different era.

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I’m a full time student right now, meaning I don’t work, but hell yes I expect my husband to contribute to house work. A man doesn’t leave because his woman doesn’t wear make up or wash the dishes, he leaves because he doesn’t want that person anymore. His grandma is brainwashed from another era. Do I have extra time to wash, dry, and fold laundry? Sure, but does my husband also have time when I’m in class since I hate folding? Yes. Divide those chores, baby!

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Time's change. When your grandma was young, women didn't go to school after primary school, they would marry and the woman would take care of them. Because that was the main duty of a wife, these were important properties for a man. But we're not in those times anymore, women vote, go to school and also have a job to get around. Because of this, roles have changed. Doesn't mean it's bad if you want to be a housewife, but it's not bad to want your man to take part in the household either.

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Thats something that varies between relationships. Its all about What you both wanna do.

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your grandma is stuck in the past where those things were true....ITS 2018!!!  if that's what u guys do then do it! if sounds like ur relationship is going fine😊😊

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I think its different for everyone. Personally, i give what my SO gives. We both work, so when we have children we will both give the same money and effort to taking care of the home, bills, child, etc. a man should not get treated like a king just because he is a man or makes more money or what have you. Any himan being gets the same respect and treatment from me that they give to me.

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Honestly if it works for you guys than awesome! I'm sure your grandma means well but that's how it was back in her time. I am a stay at home mom I take care of the kids cook clean laundry take out trash and I handle all the bills with hubby's check. So basically he works comes home eats dinner chills out with the kids while I do dishes and chat about our days. I never look fancy when he comes home and he doesn't expect me to.

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That's just some old misogynist garbage. It certainly works for some couples but for others it doesn't. Plenty of men have left women who were fully made up with dinner on the table when he got home. Do what works for your relationship!

Do you feel like women have to take care of their SO 24/7?

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