Being too touchy?

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FTM.. I have a friend who keeps telling me about how breastfeeding will hurt and I’m like “I know this”.... saying good luck & that “I’ll see”. I hate the negative comments from women who didn’t like breastfeeding or unfortunately found the discomforts of breastfeeding, don’t bring that negative vibe over here!
She keeps telling me I should get formula just Incase and I told the girl we have been given formula from an ultrasound place. I’m good, Thanks. Stop. 
Today she messages and ask if I received any mail cause she sent formula. She said she knows I didn’t want any from her but again, just Incase I needed it.
I’d be very crushed if I couldn’t breastfeed so I don’t want that energy or to speak that way about it. I know the reality of breastfeeding not going my / the babys way. So unless I ask for you advice, I don’t want it/need it. Am I just being touching?

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No your not being overly sensitive. I’d let her know to knock it off and she’s out of line. Just b/c breastfeeding didn’t work out for her doesn’t mean it’ll be the same for you. If she can’t be supportive or encouraging she needs to keep it to herself. I’m the first in my family to breastfeed in who knows how long, but we’ve made past 12 months so far. If it’s something that’s important to you then keep at it.

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That’s pretty annoying, honestly. I mean, I’d be annoyed-you’ve expressed your feelings to her, so she needs to back off. It’s like she’s trying to set you up to not be able to breastfeed. Obviously things can happen, but if that’s what you want to do, you don’t want to go into it thinking you’re not going to be able to. I’d nicely, but firmly tell her you appreciate her thinking of you, but you don’t want to talk about breastfeeding/formula feeding anymore. Is she continues, I’d stop talking to her...

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I think she is being a little over the top, but her intentions are probably kind. Just let it go

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No youre not being too touchy! It seems like she is trying to make you not want to breastfeed because she didn’t! She seems maybe she will get jealous if you do!

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I never had any pain with breastfeeding, not even in the beginning. Not everyone has pain, dont let her discourage you. Go to a breastfeeding class to help prepare, you can do it!!

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I’ve had friends who had bleeding, cracked nipples and breastfed through it all. 
I had pain for about two days and then nothing. 
Mine was supply/hungry baby issues and the pain wasn’t a problem. 
Everyone’s journey is different. You might just be one of the lucky ones who don’t have pain and that’d be fantastic for you :-)

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I'd throw the formula in the garbage and tell her I did so. I can't have negativity like that either, or I WILL fail in my goal. I choose to protect goals that are important to me, sometimes to a blunt extreme that people take as rude. But...if people would take my polite hinting, then polite "back off" expressions...the bluntness wouldn't even have to come out. If she thinks it's not rude to be so pushy with you, she has no right to be mad when you push back.

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I don’t think you’re being touchy.  I would just ask her to be positive for you.  Tell her to be encouraging! I hope she can turn around and be the friend you need her to be.

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You’re not being touchy. There’s ‘helpful’ and then forceful smothering

Being too touchy?

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