So I just left a guys place. We’ve been talking for a month. Deep into sex fully naked by this point & him behind me, he pulled his phone, (I only knew cause the flash turned on). I said, “what are you doing! Are you recording?!” He said, “I was going to and since the flash is on I thought it was obvious that’s what I was doing, but I won’t since you expressed you don’t want me to.” He put the phone away.

I went to leave his place and it bothered me, so before I left I asked again if he did indeed record. He said “no I didn’t record, I’ll show you”. Shows me his photo album, the last video played was dark (no flash) but you could hear moaning. At first I thought it was someone else, then all of a sudden there’s my thong on my ass! (He had to hold his phone to record it at that angle) He goes, “I think that’s your thong”. I said, “you THINK? ****And this video was from the BEGINNING part of sex, this was BEFORE I caught you when the flash on!*** You DID record me then tried to a second time and I didn’t even know!”

He looked shocked almost like he didn’t know it was recording!

I said, “Delete it and erase it from the deleted folder! ( he did both in front of me.)

I was like, you didn’t ask me let alone tell me! And since the flash was off how on earth could I know!! I would never agree to it even in marriage because we don’t know who really sees the iCloud photos & I don’t want my body out there.”

He said “but I didn’t know..” and I cut him off I couldn’t think straight.

(He must’ve forgot to turn off the auto flash the second time he tried to record, thank god, because I would’ve never been inclined to ask him to show me his albums had that the flash not gone off. I would’ve never known he recorded prior to that.)

As I left he said “I’m sorry you seem like you feel violated and now that I know you don’t like that it won’t happen again.”

I said “but I know of a girl who had a guy post her shit to tumbler without her knowing for months.”

He goes, “okay so besides stories you hear, you think I’m like that?”

I said “I’m still getting to know you! How do I know, and shit, you recorded without asking or telling me by the way, flash isn’t an excuse that I should know what you’re doing nor is that in any way me giving my consent, and it’s not a story it ACTUALLY happened to her on tumblr!”

He said “well I’m sorry but I’m not like that. I said “you did it without my consent”.

He text me to drive safe and the further I got away, the worse I felt. I tried texting him more how I felt, it says “sent as text message” instead of the blue iMessage, and my calls went straight to voicemail.... figures right!

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I didn’t even cum but boy he sure did. I don’t even want to think about having sex anytime in the future. I feel so violated.

I gotta be up for work in 4 hours. Can’t wait to shower I’m so pissed.

I should’ve saw the red flags when he bluntly expressed during sex that he was “bothered that I didn’t try to go down on him yet & that he needs me to be more aggressive, cause he’s not about the rape culture”. CREEPY

I don’t even celebrate Valentine’s Day anymore but today he invited me over to cook us dinner and I thought I’d give him a chance.

This was the first time a guy has approached me for Valentine’s Day in years.... well happy F* VALENTINES DAY TO ME!