Lingerie overreacting ?

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I love Valentine’s Day bc I hate everything cliche so I do it on purpose to be funny and cute. I get my nails done with hearts on them, I got my partner several nice gifts (like heart socks and heart briefs and a key necklace in silver) and a bunch of other stuff.

I actually bought four more massive red heart balloons 🎈 🎈🎈🎈 because it’s also our anniversary

I also had his favorite meal ordered to his house mins before I got there 
and wore red lingerie under my dress (I’ll post lingerie and update later I’m at work right now) 
So whatever he loves his gifts loved the food and 
when it got down to him realizing I was wearing lingerie he said “it’s hideous take it off”.  I felt immediately so self conscious because I’ve never done this for anyone .. he saw in my face how hurt that made me and was like I’m kidding it’s really cute I just thought you’re supposed to take it off and he kept trying to make it better but I just don’t think he should’ve said it that way idk .. he obviously fucked up and I’m not mad at him I’m just genuinely hurt but what he said since I was supper confident about wearing it and surprising him and he just tore away my confidence. 
Idk really how to handle or how to talk to him right now bc I don’t want be with someone who makes me feel this way ever. 
So after he apologized and everything I tried staying there and we didn’t have decor makeout like nothing really happened and I just felt so uncomfortable so I left and went home. 
He called me twice this morning but I didn’t answer he knows I could step out but I don’t even want to talk to him not because I’m made just because I’m hurt and idk how to approach him without him getting upset or defensive even though he knows he fucked up. ...
How do I handle this one ?

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Give him a break, men say stupid shit all the time. They talk first and think later. If he’s genuinely sorry, then I would let it go. Let him know that you were hurt by it and that it would be nice if he would consider your feelings before he blurted things out. Don’t condemn him forever though. If he doesn’t seem genuinely sorry, then I would move on.

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One you need to express your feelings to him. If what he said made you feel hurt you need to express that because he could end up making the same mistake and at that point it won’t be his fault because you didn’t communicate your feelings.
Two remember people aren’t perfect but most are willing to try and be better. So yes his comment was rude but he knows that now. Now you take an hour or 2 compose your feelings and let him know why what he said hurt.
Three bang lol jk

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He clearly fucked up but he sounds apologetic i wouldn’t cut him off for a stupid comment like that.

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If he was kidding then it was a poor joke. And how you tell it does make it seem like he was asking you to get naked in a jokey manner. He apologized. Whether you accept it or not is your choice. But his idiocy and mistake after being apologetic is something I'd just move on from honestly. I don't think it's worth starting anything over. I guarantee you it's not going to be the last thing he says that may come off insensitive to you but to him as a joke. And joke really isn't the right word but I'm not sure how else to describe it. If it's something you really can't tolerate then he probably isn't the right person for you as you require someone more serious. I can just imagine my fiancé saying the same thing to me and meaning it the same way your spouse did. But our relationship has large humour base.

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u did something u have obviously never done before.....and he reacted badly in your eyes. it's not his fault. maybe Jes just not into lingerie. u were hurt by how he reacted big deal.

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My husband says dumb shit all the time and then regrets it haha. I’m sure he just loves to see you naked :)

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I think you secretly like Valentine’s Day, so you went all out, not in an ironic way, and when he didn’t appreciate the last part of that (the lingerie, by making that comment) I think it hit harder than it should have. 
If he’s been trying to apologize to you since last night when it happened, I think you’ve given it enough fire and should let it go. My SO knows I’m self conscious about my body and knows not to joke with stuff like that. Maybe he meant it as a joke, maybe he didn’t like what you picked out or maybe he was overwhelmed from everything you did? Either way, let it go.

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Honey, my husband says that about all my clothes in a joking way because he just wants to see me naked all the time lol it's actually a compliment from the guys side (yes I know they are odd) lol I'm not saying your wrong for how you feel but I really think you took it wrong, and I bet you looked hot AF!

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this is something my husband would totally say as a joke. some men are just like that and joke at the wrong times. if he's truly sorry, I say forgive him and move on.

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If he seems genuinely sorry, just calmly text him that you need some space for a little bit because your feelings were hurt. Take a few hours or a day or whatever and don’t talk to him. Not as a punishment but just to get all your feelings out over it and put yourself back together, because whether he meant to or not he really hurt your feelings. 
When you are calmer, and feel like you can talk about it without getting too emotional just tell him that it really hurt your feelings and ask him not to joke like that again. He should apologize and then just put it behind you. If he cares he won’t make that mistake twice.

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