Do you think my husband is abusive

This is long but I am going to make it as short as possible. So I met my husband and we got pregnant fast. When I had my first son he basically took over right from birth even my parents seen it. I feel like he ruined my bond with my son because he wouldn’t naturally let me do things the way I believed to do them. So anyways I because pregnant again and I had a really good job making really good money but I got to take my maternity and after my 2nd pregnancy I argued and argued that I wanted to go back to work because I had a really good job and that I felt that it wasn’t right to pass the job up after working so hard to get that job. Anyways I should say he decided I would stay home with the kids. Anyways he’s gotten really shitty he treats me like a dog and literally told me tonight that he pays the bills so he is the boss..... He literally tells me I am a bad mom when he is having a temper tantrum and has been saying I am a free loader.. I just recently found out I am pregnant with twins and he has been treating me so horribly. I don’t even know what to do anymore because he is so snappy and so harsh and says that I am free loader and it just makes me feel worthless 😞 I literally don’t ask the man for money other then for grocery shopping and he makes me feel terrible for asking for anything. I don’t take his money.!when I left my job I had $40k already on my pension and it went to his account how could I be a free loader