How did you tell your SO you were pregnant after miscarriage

It’s not the same telling your husband or SO you’re pregnant after miscarriage. The excitement gets replaced with fear and anxiety. There’s less hope and more doubt, “will this one stay, or will we go through heartbreak again?”.

The first time I got pregnant, I set up a cute surprise for my husband, and recorded his reaction. It’s so special to me, and I’ll cherish it forever. We both held each other and cried the majority of the video. A week later, the baby was gone.

The second time I got pregnant was only a month later, and the sting was still there. We decided to take the test together. This turned out to be so special and intimate too. My husband held the test and waited for he results, I was so nervous and couldn’t tell by his face what it turned out to be. He flipped it around and there was a big fat “Yes+”. Again, we held each other and felt so excited, yet scared. Would this only last a week too?

I was admitted to the hospital at 6 weeks with severe bleeding, but very high HCG levels. After hours of stress and fear, the tech turned around the ultrasound and let us see our healthy little baby. We both broke into tears. I had developed a hemorrhage, but everything was most likely going to be ok.

We thought this time we had made it through, everything would be ok.

At 11 weeks, we had already told our parents and family, and were one week away from announcing it to the world when I had the most traumatic, hinting experience of my life and lost the baby naturally at home.

It’s been 5 months now, and we’ve been trying for 3.

When the time comes, do I surprise my husband? What would you/did you do?

It’s such a sore subject now, but I still want it to be special.