My husband and I are currently arguing over the fact that I refuse to love his mother and sister. His dad and brother are the exception as they are kind and keep to themselves. My husband believes that if I truly love him I should love his family as well. With the exception that I am traumatized by his mother. She visited me 2 weeks postpartum and made me clean the house and bathroom. Mind you, I was not up for it and she was raving about how I HAD to get up and DO STUFF. I told my husband this later on. He thinks I should have moved on. Then she comes to visit our house 1 month after we move in and raves about politics and then moves EVERYTHING in my kitchen! I had no idea where she had put things. I’m sorry I don’t go into other people’s house and move their stuff. To top it off she wanted to cut my sons hair but she HAS NO PATIENCE! so halfway through as he is crying she wants me to push his head down so can cut it. I told her NO and that she needs to take a break and she walked off pissed at me. Saying that what I am I going to do? Let him run my life? And then continued by saying that I have to make life and career choices for him or he will go down a horrible path and become nothing. After her saying that and only being here 2 days I kept my distance and ran errands. I did not want to be around her.  Now fast forward 2 years later. My husband and I are arguing about how to parent our son.  He is strict old school Asian ways. I’m Asian too but mixed. I was raise the same way, but I swore I would not raise my son this way.  I would teach him to independent and polite. My husband thinks that I am too lenient and I will make our son a softy who can’t stand up for himself. So he feel the need to  be strict with him at 2 years old. I had enough and so out of no options I called his mother in hopes that she would somehow side with me.. WRONG it made things WORSE. She had been speaking to my husband and he was been telling her all these stories about how I am too lenient  and too loving with our son. He feels that I GOOGLE too much. WRONG our son is 2 year old. He is still a toddler. He is smart but  that doesn’t mean I have to treat him as if hes is soo much older.  AS for GOOGLING.. I DON’t I took child development classes and I was a nanny. That’s where my expertise comes from.  He feels that it doesn’t help me and that I don’t know any better. I am a college grad, he is not, not that it bad but I feel like he doesn’t know where I come from in the book smart area.  His mother tells me the same things… mind you she visits 1 time per year, how is she to know how I treat my son. On top of it all she was cold with her kids. Now she finally comes out and says that I was disrespectful to her after a whole 2 years have passed? When I was not, as I said I kept my distance because I did not want to hurt by her harsh comments. Not I have an angry husband who has not spoken to me in 2 days and and an angry mother in law disrespectful to her after a whole 2 years have passed? When I was not, as I said I kept my distance because I did not want to hurt by her harsh comments. Not I have an angry husband who has not spoken to me in 2 days and and an angry mother in law.