Boyfriend is recovering alcoholic

Hi ladies,

I just want some opinions and anyone who has been in this situation with some insight would be much appreciated!

Before my BF and I got together he was a heavy drinker but when we met he honestly wasnt that bad. He would go out and drink with friends on the weekend but not crazily. He told me he "used" to drink a lot but hes been way better and what not. Fast forward a few months and things are getting pretty serious. He started drinking a little more often and then I found out I was pregnant. I told him I would NOT raise my child with an alcoholic (my dad is an alcoholic and just an all around shitty person). He slowed down his drinking to a reasonable few here and there stating he didn't want to raise our child like that either.

After I had our baby girl, the drinking got worse. Like way off the deep end. He made some mistakes which he blamed on drinking (even though to me thats not an excuse) and he agreed to go to addictions counseling and couples counseling.

He's been doing really well BUT he has said some things that make me think hes doing it "for now" in the hopes that I will be more comfortable with him drinking again in the future.

For instance he was talking to his best friend on the phone and about his upcoming wedding which my SO is the best man. Drinking came up and my SO said "I can't drink that much because I have a baby now and don't want to have to be daddy hungover."

Uhm no you're a recovering alcoholic you shouldn't drink at all. At the time of the wedding (September this year) he won't have even been sober for a year.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I also feel saying "if you drink im leaving" is unfair because I understand slips happen, although if it got bad again I most likely would leave.

Any advice is appreciated.

Edit: His friends know hes in recovery and have said some pretty shady stuff to him and me. His best friend tells him all the time "one would be okay". I think he's pissed he lost his drinking buddy. He also said to me on Facebook "you really think hes never going to drink again, yeah right". Which I find pretty rude. If it was my friend trying to be sober I would support them 100% especially if their family was on the line.