What he says goes....?

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Ladies....how do you feel about doing things and looking a certain way for your husbands even if it’s not what YOU are comfortable with or not how YOU feel pretty? Example: if my husband likes my hair blonde...but I like it better dark. I feel better about myself with dark hair....do I go blonde cause “that’s what he likes”? Same with clothes/shoes. If my husband likes the Nike’s and I like the Chucks....do I get the Nikes cause he likes me to wear them? 
I feel like that’s a very old fashioned way of doing things. I also feel that’s very controlling. I think as long as YOU feel the best about yourself and YOU are happy, your husband should be able to support you in that. 
Opinions!!!

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I think you should do you makes you happy/feel more confident. I’m open to getting things my hubby likes but ultimately it is my choice. Like my hubby has been saying I should cut my hair, but I like my hair long. He says I look beautiful either way.

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I think taking into consideration what he likes is respectful but at the end of the day it’s what you want.

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I think a man is kind of an asshole if he's saying, "I like your hair so much better blonde" knowing you prefer it dark.

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I compromise on things like if he doesn’t like that you can see my nipples too much because I don’t have a bra on then I would put pasties on or he didn’t like my bangs so I won’t get bangs again just because it’s not something I feel strongly about. 
I draw the line on things like my hair color, I’m going to dye it blonde or brunette when I want to because it makes me feel good or what tattoos I get because that’s my body and my choice for life.
So The way I see it is if it’s not a big deal and he’s not essentially trying to change who I am through the ways I express myself then I’m willing to compromise like okay yeah it’s not super important to me to have bangs or that everyone can see me nipping at this restaurant i won’t do it. But if it would make me feel uncomfortable with my appearance (if he wanted me to have only blonde hair or only wear Nikes even though my style looks better with Chucks) or even making me physically uncomfortable (like telling me I could only wear heels or wedges even though they hurt) then yeah that’s way controlling for my taste. 
Everyone has different things that matter to them and where they draw the line, some people “let” their partner do whatever they want, some compromise on what’s most important to make them feel better and some will do whatever their partner prefers and it’s not a big deal to them so you just have to make your personal choice and then tell your husband that, if he respects you then he will understand some things you just won’t change.

What he says goes....?

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