What should I do

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My baby daddy is homeless, bumming off a friend for a place to sleep. He has no car and no job but has been SLOWLY looking for the passed few months and now is looking a little harder since I’m pregnant. We broke up right before I found out I was pregnant because I feel like I deserve better. He’s always feeling sorry for himself and I tried for 6 months now to help him. If he continues to live where he does I will not allow the baby to visit him because it’s not a good part of town and it’s a disgusting place to live. I’m getting a trailer house soon and part of me wants to have him move in so that he’s actually a part of the babies life but I also don’t want to constantly be around his negativity and don’t want to argue with him. 
Should I leave him on his own and stop trying to take care of him or should I have him move in and try to help him.

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Leave him on his own. You tried to help him once. Clearly he doesn’t want to step up and that’s sad. Maybe he will eventually get his act together and be a part of the babies life.

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Don't let him move in, you're asking for trouble.

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Do not let him move in, 
Make sure he knows that until he is in a more stable and safe environment that he will not be having the child over, however he should still be allowed to visit the baby at your place.
If he wants to be a part of the kids life he will work to be a part of it.

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Leave him on his own. If you give him a place to stay again, it’ll be less motivating for him since he has a warm place to sleep and food on the table without having to work for it. He needs to learn how to get his life together on his own before he can be expected to be a positive part of your baby’s life.

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You let him figure it out on his own! He should be taking care of you & his child. Not the other way around. If he can’t step up on his own then save yourself the trouble. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy in peace. If he wanted to be part of his child’s life he would of done it on his own. Do you. Focus on you & your baby.

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Leave him be. He’s had plenty of time to try and fix what was going on in his life, getting a simple fast food job/gas station/ movie theater jobs are super easy to get. Which means he’s doing a poor job of filling out the paperwork, not showing a interest in working/good work ethic, or he’s potentially lying about trying. Do NOT move him in to your home unless he has a job and is making his life better. You and the baby dont owe him anything, if anything he owes that baby a decent father. If he can’t do that he has no business being in baby’s life.

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If he doesn’t put effort into it now knowing he has a baby on the way and not trying to come up from where he is now he won’t try if you let him in it’s just going to be easier for him. I’d say stop trying I know it’s hard but baby and you will be fine. 😊

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Don't enable him. If you and a baby aren't enough of a motivator for him to get his shit together, nothing will be and you'll be carrying his dead weight forever.

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why would you enable someone that will not help themselves

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He has to help himself first, and if he can’t do that (and it sounds like he doesn’t want to), then he won’t be able to help you or your baby. 
It’s probably been more than just you and the friend he’s bumming with that has tried to help him. With support like that, it shouldn’t be hard to at least get one foot in the door. 
Like I said, he just doesn’t want to. I’d give up on him, honey. You give your baby its best chance ❤️

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