PATERNAL POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION š¢š§š»
Iāve noticed my fiancĆ© seems different since we had our baby. This is my first and his second child. We are 22 and 24. Money is tight. I know Iāve been struggling and I express this to him but in typical man style he isnāt one to speak up about his feelings.
He seems off. Iāve been watching him and I feel like heās miserable. Earlier tonight he held our baby while i made a bottle and she was screaming. He made a few attempts to comfort her and then just laid her on the bed in front of him and put his head in his hands. I went in there to take her and he told me he had it but he didnāt look okay. I didnāt push it and went back out of the room. I see this kind of behavior a lot and it concerns me. If heād been making the bottle I wouldāve been talking to her, rocking her, walking around with her, anything to comfort her until the bottle was ready. He always seems exasperated and gives up easily.
Sometimes when I ask if he wants to hold her he just shrugs and says sheāll cry if he does. Which isnāt necessarily true. She loves her daddy. Heās the only one that can make her smile. She cries when I hold her sometimes too. Difference is I try harder to comfort her and donāt get as frustrated as he does.
Iāve been trying to be extra sweet and supportive to help him. I ask if how heās feeling all the time and donāt get much of a response. I try to be sure and ask about his day when he gets home every day so if he needs to talk he can. He wonāt offer up any information without me asking. It seems like he doesnāt want to be home. He complains that he doesnāt get to go out and do his hobbies but neither do I. I rarely get to leave the house.
Iām not sure what to do to help him or what to say to him about this. I want him to talk to me but Iām not sure how to get him to. His behavior is so off and i donāt know what to do. Iām so worried about him and our relationship. Sometimes I wonder if he doesnāt want our baby at all and it hurts. It seems like he gets mad at her for crying a lot but thatās just what babies do. š¤·š»āāļø Someone please help me. How can I get him to talk to me...? Iām considering getting him to go hiking with me and trying to start a serious conversation with him about it but I donāt know how to approach it and donāt want him to feel ambushed.
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