I’ve noticed my fiancé seems different since we had our baby. This is my first and his second child. We are 22 and 24. Money is tight. I know I’ve been struggling and I express this to him but in typical man style he isn’t one to speak up about his feelings.

He seems off. I’ve been watching him and I feel like he’s miserable. Earlier tonight he held our baby while i made a bottle and she was screaming. He made a few attempts to comfort her and then just laid her on the bed in front of him and put his head in his hands. I went in there to take her and he told me he had it but he didn’t look okay. I didn’t push it and went back out of the room. I see this kind of behavior a lot and it concerns me. If he’d been making the bottle I would’ve been talking to her, rocking her, walking around with her, anything to comfort her until the bottle was ready. He always seems exasperated and gives up easily.

Sometimes when I ask if he wants to hold her he just shrugs and says she’ll cry if he does. Which isn’t necessarily true. She loves her daddy. He’s the only one that can make her smile. She cries when I hold her sometimes too. Difference is I try harder to comfort her and don’t get as frustrated as he does.

I’ve been trying to be extra sweet and supportive to help him. I ask if how he’s feeling all the time and don’t get much of a response. I try to be sure and ask about his day when he gets home every day so if he needs to talk he can. He won’t offer up any information without me asking. It seems like he doesn’t want to be home. He complains that he doesn’t get to go out and do his hobbies but neither do I. I rarely get to leave the house.

I’m not sure what to do to help him or what to say to him about this. I want him to talk to me but I’m not sure how to get him to. His behavior is so off and i don’t know what to do. I’m so worried about him and our relationship. Sometimes I wonder if he doesn’t want our baby at all and it hurts. It seems like he gets mad at her for crying a lot but that’s just what babies do. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Someone please help me. How can I get him to talk to me...? I’m considering getting him to go hiking with me and trying to start a serious conversation with him about it but I don’t know how to approach it and don’t want him to feel ambushed.