Positive birth experiences? (& how to get things going?)

Question

Nearly 35 weeks now & I'm super anxious. I'm scared I'll either tear really bad or have an emergency c-section because my hips have always been misaligned. I'm scared baby will get stuck. Part of me wants a c-sections to rule out a horrible tear but I know recovery with a vaginal is a lot less painful.. If I could hear some positive experiences that'd be nicee.. please & thank you💕 (FTM here) Btw what can i do (obviously in a few weeks from now) to speed up labor and prevent tearing? Primrose oil? Rasberry leaf tea?

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i had a tear with my first because he arrived flying like Superman with one hand up. it wasn't really that bad since everything downstairs just hurts in general after the birth. one thing I thought of beforehand was that clearly it couldn't be THAT bad if so many women have multiple children. I also knew that my body was built to do it and I needed to trust the process. and tbh it was a pretty amazing experience. I had an unmedicated water birth and I'm planning the same with the second baby if I can.

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I stand by going for a nice long walk, if you're able to do so. I was told by my midwife at my 38 week appointment that my son wasn't going to come on his own, I'd need to be induced & that they would let me go over.. he was my first baby and the thought of going over and having to sit & wait around for it to happen just terrified me! I was so angry leaving my appointment that me & my partner went on a long walk so I could calm down and digest what she had told me.. I'd been home for about an hour and my waters began to trickle, so I rang the maternity ward & they had me in for a checkup, sure enough my labour had began! The SAME day my midwife had told me it wasn't gonna happen naturally for me... I had contractions for 24hrs, 2 of them being intense and then 5mins of actual pushing and my son was here! I had a completely natural birth with just a little gas & air and I didn't tear at all. I'm now pregnant with baby #2 AND number #3 and I'm hoping for a very similar birth, if I can with it being twins I'll have to see how every thing goes but it would be lovely to have the same experience again! I believe everyone is different though but I wouldn't get hug up on the tearing part, it's either gonna happen or not and the more worried and tense you are about that happening it's just gonna make it more likely! In my opinion the minute my contractions started tearing didn't even come up, not even when I was in actual labour, it didn't cross my mind; I had bigger fish to fry! I didn't think about it once & it wasn't till it was all over I even asked if it had happened but I wasn't worried or concerned by then because I had my son in my arms & life was gooooood! ☺️✨

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I had a greet birth experience! I was induced by breaking my water since baby girl was past her due date and I had been dilated to a 4 for multiple weeks. I had a vaginal birth with only a little nitrous and did end up tearing, but baby was 8# 8oz and labor was fast, only about 4 hours. After the delivery they will just stitch you up and it will be sore, but everything is going to be sore. I tried everything to try and kick start labor, but obviously nothing worked. Baby will be here on their schedule! I know it’s so tough waiting for the little one to get here, but really soak in the last few days before baby arrives. You’ll miss it for sure!

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I did it 3 times and no tears. induced all 3 times. only 1 epidural. 6 lbs 9.5 oz, 7 lbs 14 oz, and 8 lbs 6 oz. you got this momma! And no matter what your professional will help you. :-)

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I was always terrified to give birth but to be honest it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought. The epidural didnt hurt in anyway, it even made me feel a little woozy and silly. I didn't take any birthing classes and once it was time to push I just did what the doctor said. My body completely took over, I wasn't scared, nervous or anything. TBH it did hurt when the babies head came out (they call it the ring of fire and that's exactly what it felt like). Once the baby pops out it's all good. I had a small tear towards to front of my vagina and I remember her stitching it up but it didn't hurt. I think it was like 3 or 4 stitches. I was up within 4 hours going to the bathroom. My mom had really traumatic births with me and my brother but I had zero issues. Just make sure u are comfortable with ur doctor or midwife (I had a midwife, my OBGYN only called in doc for a c section or emergency. I kno I had other support in the room but I swear I owe it to my midwife. She was awesome and really pushed me to get that baby out pol) but u will be ok. It's Mother Nature at its finest. U got this!!!

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