Should adultery be made illegal?

Hey everyone. While sitting suffering the web I found this article that I posted bellow. I thought it made some really good points on both sides and some dumb ones on both sides.

So I though that I would bring it here and see what you guys think

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http://www.debate.org/opinions/should-adultery-be-made-illegal

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Should adultery be made illegal?

Strong emotional and psychological impact I believe that adultery is the same as any other crime, such as stealing and murder. It affects a lot of people, and the emotional and psychological impact on the people involved can be devastating. Research has proven that children from broken families are less likely to become successful in life, as well as having psychological issues of their own.

A corporate spy can serve jail time for committing a Criminal Breach of Trust, so why should this be any different? A marriage is built on trust, and as such, any action that betray said trust should be made punishable by law.

Adultery is not a victimless crime. If we could see the emotional scars like we see physical scars, no one would any longer dispute that something big must be done. It is out of control and destroying lives. Suicides, murders, drugs, alcohol, depression, neglect of children by victim unable to function because of the distress caused...

Adultery is not a victimless crime. If we could see the emotional scars like we see physical scars, no one would any longer dispute that something big must be done. It is out of control and destroying lives. Suicides, murders, drugs, alcohol, depression, neglect of children by victim unable to function because of the distress caused...

Marriage is a legal agreement To argue the government does not have a right to regulate morality is to defelect attention from the legal constitution of marriage, to regulating individual choices. The freedom to cheat is your own choice, but if that’s what you want to do, then do not agree to marriage; a legal status, that by definition is an arrangement between two parties. You have legal arrangements with everyone from your cable company to your Insurance company. You still have the right to cancel the agreement if you aren’t happy, but you still have to abide by the terms of the agreement. Sure cancel the contract, but if you use the excuse I wasn’t happy, I’m not honoring my commitment to the contract, you’ll find yourself in legal trouble. Why is marriage any different? The govement recognizes it as a contract, so if you break it Expect consequences. Sorry Charlie, choices come with consequences. You don’t want to abide by the rules... Well that’s your choice, but the party who had no say in the breaking of the contract shouldn’t have to pay a penance for a cheaters choices. Laws are designed to hold people accountable for their actions. It’s your life, do what you want, but don’t expect others to foot the bill if you choose the immoral path instead of choosing to do things the least harmful route. People shouldn’t get a pass because it’s not the governments business who they are sleeping with. The point is you are breaking a contract , it’s pretty simple.

Harm to other Some are saying here it is not physical offense ,but it is mental offense ,most of times mental injury is more harmful than physical injury,it leads to depression which make you feel like dead ,I have gone through it is much much more damaging than any physical injury ,laws against physical offense are made because by that means you give pain to other ,then why not against adultery which is more painful .

Uncaged Rage ! True love is strong, it is very powerful, it would turn the biggest wuss into a hero and the hardest of us into a marshmallow.

Breaking it causes true pain, which could have deadly consequences.

The victim feels the greatest injustice of their life and NothingHappen'sToTheirPerpetrator

Yes, adultery should be illegal Setting my Christian beliefs aside, I still think adultery should be illegal. Just like any other crime, it is a choice that somebody makes that can harm and affect other people. Discovering that the person you love most is having an affair can be emotionally and mentally damaging. Not to mention if children are involved. If you are dissatisfied with your relationship you should discontinue it properly instead of leading someone on and risk emotionally devastating them. Anyone who commits adultery should be punishable by law like the self pig they are.

Cheating is crime It is a crime because the cheater makes the primary partner believe he still respect and love her/him, while instead preventing the betrayed partner from knowing the ugly truth: that they never married the person they believe they married and that they are wasting their time and energy on someone who is a fake. It's basically a scam where the betrayed spouse is the victim. He/she is made to believe they are loved when they are not, and are deprived of the freedom to choose another partner. They are deceived into believing a lie, so their whole life becomes a lie because it's based on false knowledge. Cheating means ripping someone off, it's as if a food producing industry decided ton give consumers false information about the products they sell. Consumers would definitely buy a different product if they the freedom to choose based on correct information. This is why cheating prevents cheated partners from making free, informed choices, and it violates one of the most fundamental human rights, the right to the truth. A cheater basically strips a partner off his/her human rights to make a choice based on the truth. That's why it's called cheating, which means betraying, playing others, lying, manipulating.

Harm to others. First adultery is illegal in 21 states it's just not enforced, primarily in my opinion because our nation is in a state of moral decay. One important function of any law is to protect citizens. Some who have most likely committed adultery will falsely argue that you can't punish someone for having hurt feelings. They underplay what adultety really does. Adultery is way more significant than that. There is research that shows how damaging adultery can be both to the innocent spouse, but also the children when involved.

Adultery does cause harm. The emotional and psychological damage to the spouse often leads to a volatile divorce, and if children are invvolved now the courts have decided to punish our children by forcing them to be with a perpetutor. I am a firm believer that children have the right to be in one home. Mom will live in her place, dad will live in his....But the children really have no home. People try to sugar-coat it and say no they have two homes. This is just a lie. What if you were forced to live 50 percent of your life in one house and 50 percent somewhere else? Would that be fair to you? Yet our courts do this to our children. And now for some reason we have come to believe that children that are 10, 11, 12, 13, 14 or whatever cannot come to their own moral judgments. In other words, when a child knows full well that mom or dad is a cheater yet is powerless to do anything about. Though the US Constitution says all citizens, including children, have rights including freedom of speech and freedom of religion, yet the judges will trample on their rights and give them no say in what they want.

If our country would get a pair, and start punishing those who commit adultery, there wouldn't be as much of it, and perhaps more children's lives wouldn't be destroyed.

I say laws that would protect our children would be a good law. I'm not suggesting that these people should go to jail. In fact that could cause more harm to the innocent spouse. The penalty should be monetary. Enough of the 50/50 dividing of assets. I say if a spouse commits adultery and especially ends a marriage they should be made to significantky pay for the damages caused. If they were the breadwinner they should be made to pay for life. If they were not, they should get no financial support. Full custody should go to the spouse who didn't cheat. We as a society and our judges have gone soft on cheaters and that needs to change.

Harm to others. First adultery is illegal in 21 states it's just not enforced, primarily in my opinion because our nation is in a state of moral decay. One important function of any law is to protect citizens. Some who have most likely committed adultery will falsely argue that you can't punish someone for having hurt feelings. They underplay what adultety really does. Adultery is way more significant than that. There is research that shows how damaging adultery can be both to the innocent spouse, but also the children when involved.

Adultery does cause harm. The emotional and psychological damage to the spouse often leads to a volatile divorce, and if children are invvolved now the courts have decided to punish our children by forcing them to be with a perpetutor. I am a firm believer that children have the right to be in one home. Mom will live in her place, dad will live in his....But the children really have no home. People try to sugar-coat it and say no they have two homes. This is just a lie. What if you were forced to live 50 percent of your life in one house and 50 percent somewhere else? Would that be fair to you? Yet our courts do this to our children. And now for some reason we have come to believe that children that are 10, 11, 12, 13, 14 or whatever cannot come to their own moral judgments. In other words, when a child knows full well that mom or dad is a cheater yet is powerless to do anything about. Though the US Constitution says all citizens, including children, have rights including freedom of speech and freedom of religion, yet the judges will trample on their rights and give them no say in what they want.

If our country would get a pair, and start punishing those who commit adultery, there wouldn't be as much of it, and perhaps more children's lives wouldn't be destroyed.

I say laws that would protect our children would be a good law. I'm not suggesting that these people should go to jail. In fact that could cause more harm to the innocent spouse. The penalty should be monetary. Enough of the 50/50 dividing of assets. I say if a spouse commits adultery and especially ends a marriage they should be made to significantky pay for the damages caused. If they were the breadwinner they should be made to pay for life. If they were not, they should get no financial support. Full custody should go to the spouse who didn't cheat. We as a society and our judges have gone soft on cheaters and that needs to change.

Making Adultery illegal only works if you are going to accept groundless divorce Traditionally, adultery has been required as grounds for divorce. Making adultery illegal would, in effect, make divorce illegal, unless you are prepared to accept divorce on a "no fault" basis.

But accepting that marriage can be dissolved on a "no fault" basis legally, undermines the concept of it as being legally viewed as a lifelong union, accepting breaking the marital vows.

Ironically therefore, it is necessary for adultery to be legal, in order for a marriage to be legally dissolved, unless you're willing to accept "no fault" divorce, which undermines the definition of marriage in the first place.

Relationships are no business of the government. The argument that it destroys the life of the victims, i.e. children or spouse who was cheated on, is false because that would mean it should be illegal to fire someone from their job.

To the emotional aspect: Man is not affected by events but by the view he takes of them. In other words, if you take offense to the actions of another, it is your fault. You were not murdered, you were done no physical injustice but to hurt someone's feelings. By that logic, rejection should be illegal (even if that is a slippery slope).

As to the idea of a contract, the debate is whether adultery should be part of that contract, so therefore the idea of "it's a contract and violating that contract is a crime" is false.

Relationships are no business of the government. The argument that it destroys the life of the victims, i.e. children or spouse who was cheated on, is false because that would mean it should be illegal to fire someone from their job.

To the emotional aspect: Man is not affected by events but by the view he takes of them. In other words, if you take offense to the actions of another, it is your fault. You were not murdered, you were done no physical injustice but to hurt someone's feelings. By that logic, rejection should be illegal (even if that is a slippery slope).

As to the idea of a contract, the debate is whether adultery should be part of that contract, so therefore the idea of "it's a contract and violating that contract is a crime" is false.

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Government is not moral police Now are you going to ask for punishment if somebody hook with you and then later refuse to have relationship with you?

Or maybe your partner should be punished because he want to break up with you.

I don't deny what happened is horrible. But still the most I feel law should do is to expedite divorce process in such cases

Government is not moral police Now are you going to ask for punishment if somebody hook with you and then later refuse to have relationship with you?

Or maybe your partner should be punished because he want to break up with you.

I don't deny what happened is horrible. But still the most I feel law should do is to expedite divorce process in such cases

Government is not moral police Now are you going to ask for punishment if somebody hook with you and then later refuse to have relationship with you?

Or maybe your partner should be punished because he want to break up with you.

I don't deny what happened is horrible. But still the most I feel law should do is to expedite divorce process in such cases

What constitutes cheating, exactly? Is cheating sex? Kissing? Holding hands? Sending risqué photos? Love letters? What about feeling mesmerized by another person? Can we only "cheat" with sex or feelings? How about cheating a partner out of money; if I quit working, am I cheating my spouse? What if I spend like crazy? What if I stop having sex with my spouse? Or if I spend all my time watching tv? If I meet someone and fall in love and divorce my spouse before having sex with the new person is that cheating? And, if I get divorced because I want to have sex with someone else, or fall in love with someone else, how long do I have to wait after getting divorced to get started on my life? Can I have any contact with a member of the opposite sex while married? I get how devastating it can feel to discover your partner is unfaithful but who apportions blame and how? Let's be honest: a whole lot of marriages are just two people living like roommates and raising kids. Comfortable enough and maybe even easy and efficient, but about as stimulating as warm milk. No doubt, the person "betrayed" is rocked by having his or her comfy situation disturbed, but why does the "cheating" spouse owe his/her life to preserving their spouse's happiness at the expense of his/her own? I'll make the argument that parents should try damn hard to at least get all their kids to adulthood before splitting up, but that might mean both parents tolerating some degree of discomfort (e.G. Accepting your spouse is having sex outside the marriage or postponing moving on with your life and staying in your dull marriage) until your youngest graduates from high school. I think a lot of people who are cheated-on are the more vulnerable party in the couple. That's scary because you fear losing your lifestyle, but no one owes us a plush living if providing for us means losing for themselves. It seems most likely that most of those arguing in favor of punishment are the abandoned and betrayed. Yes, you are wounded but why should the State prefer maintaining your fantasies and lifestyle over that of the person who wants to move on from you?

Do you need the courts or government to protect your shitty marriages? C'mon now. How many more laws do we need? How much more should the government be involved in our personal lives? If you're married and either you or your spouse cheats, that's on you, your spouse and anyone else involved.

Adultery leads to violence? So does cutting people off in traffic. Control yourself.

Third parties? That single person who boned your whore wife/husband wasn't married. Your whore wife/husband is. Take it up with them.

Stop being such pansies and regulate yo' shit.

It is your choice. Adultery should not be a crime. Everybody needs the right to choose who they have sex with and nobody should have their privacy breached in court. You are free to make your own choices about who you sleep with and while adultery may not be morally correct. It is in no way, a criminal offence.