Does it ever get better? 😔

Question

So a couple months ago I found out my husband cheated on me. I’m not sure how long but he says it only went on for 1 month and he only took her out once for lunch and after that one time he felt guilty and cut it off. I obviously don’t believe him. I’m sure it wasn’t  just once and I’m certain there was other girls. Im not sure how I never caught him. I feel so stupid. I’m not perfect i don’t think I’m ugly. I sacrificed a lot for him. I was one of those wife’s who went those extra 5 miles for him. The perfect wife, at least I thought I was. Why would he want to entertain another female? If he loved me why would he betray me like that. He knew it would hurt me. I decided to stay because I also have kids with him and I hate myself for staying because I chose him over my dignity. I still love him yet hate him. There’s not one day that goes by where I don’t think about he’s betrayal and it’s slowly killing me inside. Every time I remember I hate him more. Will it ever go away, the hate? The resentment? Should I have left?
UPDATE: 
I stayed because he’s always been a great husband/ father (besides the cheating) He always spent time with us and took us out. He never said “no” to me whenever I wanted something. He’s always been so kind and gentle with me. He never went out with friends. He didn’t even have friends. No social media. He’s a hard worker and very responsible. I thought he was a one of kind man. I swear if it wasn’t for him cheating he would’ve been the perfect man. That’s why I’m shocked at his betrayal. Every person we knew saw he treated me like a queen. I can say I was happy and I thought he was too.

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Never went away for me. I just hated him a little more each time I remembered. I also begun hating myself for being too “weak” to leave someone that valued pussy over me and our family. Leaving was the best thing I’ve ever done.

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For some people it never goes away. Staying with someone for the kids isn’t going to make it right or you happy and the kids will definitely pick up on that. 
You could try counselling but that can be expensive and it doesn’t always work. 
Personally id be done with him. I can’t cope with someone betraying me like that. Even if he did nothing but go for a meal the intention was there.

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The hate will never go away! Every time I remember shit my husband has done makes me hate him. You learn to to forgive but never
Forget.

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I’m not married and I truly don’t know how I would react if my husband cheated on me because every situation is so different but I do not think you’re stupid for staying. In fact I firmly believe that after a spouse cheats you shouldn’t just give up, this obviously is very dependent on this situation because a lot of cheating situations are different but if you feel like you can save your marriage I absolutely think you should try. At least that way if it doesn’t work out you can tell your kids that you gave it everything you had to make it work.

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I stayed and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I cried and cried and felt angry and everything u could imagine. He worked really hard to gain my trust and to proof to me he regretted it and wanted me only. He cheated at the beginning of our relationship though. I hated him so much for sometime. I couldn’t see him the same way but it went away. I feel like I have forgiven him and our relationship just got stronger. He is loyal and faithful now. Sometimes I think about it still but it feels like fading memories, I feel sad but it goes away pretty quickly. It made me realize that I am really strong and learned that forgiveness really exists lol. I feel relieved because I decided I wanted to be happy, all those feelings were killing me only. I felt like I was giving him poison but I was the one getting poisoned. Be strong but if he doesn’t work hard to fix the relationship then leave him, do not waste your time, you will regret it later. Ask him if you cheated if he would’ve forgiven you. Tell him to be honest.

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there are marriages that work out after infidelity.  I would suggest counseling and see if you 2 can work thru this. I think your marriage should be worth trying to save.

Does it ever get better? 😔

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