So today, I called my mother in tears. On my way home, I had been harassed by two men who were smoking weed and quite a lot physically bigger than me. When I finally got home, I called her, and her first question was “what were you wearing?”, followed quickly by “what were you doing to provoke them?”. This is not surprising, when looking at the relationship between my mother and I (that she would blame me) but when I called her out on it, she essentially told me that it is my fault if I get harassed or catcalled or the like. Please tell me that I’m not going crazy and she was actually in the wrong here? I’m hoping it’s just because she doesn’t see me as a great person, rather than because she genuinely believes this kind of behaviour from men is okay.