1 year itch?

Question

So it’s coming up to one year with me and my bf. ( I have never got past a year with anyone ) and I’m scared he is going to
Propose to me and I don’t know if that’s what I want?! I love him don’t get me
Wrong.
We recently had a discussion about having kids and the fact that I don’t want them. I thought he was going to leave me and I would have supported his decision. But he said he would rather be with me and not have kids than to have them with anyone else. Which is a big deal because he has always wanted kids. 
Anyway, I feel like if he does propose and I say yes because how Could I say no?! That thats it, my life is mapped out. Marriage and a house and I’m not sure if I’m ready ?! I’m not sure I’ll ever be ready?! My family are always telling me I’m a free spirit and I am and I want to Continue to be. What do I do??

Accepted Answer

I kind of feel like you two should perhaps aren’t meant for each other. He wants kids, you don’t. He wants marriage, you don’t. Those are two very big differences in regards to what you want out of life.

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You guys aren’t meant for each other.
Just end it now because it only gets harder.
My husband and his first wife figured one would adapt to the other about their decision for kids.
They didn’t.  They divorced after lots of pain

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You will probably get more of a response if you put this in the relationship room.. this is not a CC discussion and you are not supposed to post anonymously here.
That said, if you think he might be proposing he doesn’t seem to have a gauge on how you are not ready, so it sounds like your relationship needs a healthy dose of communication. It should bother you that he is willing to give up a big lifestyle choice not to have kids.. it’s a big deal and he may be thinking you will just change your mind. That alone makes me think you are not ultimately compatible, but maybe you just need more time. If he proposes you should definitely tell him you are not ready and start having some serious discussions about where you stand and what you want.

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You’re not meant to be together. He wants kids, you don’t. If you’ve known he wants kids this whole time you should’ve told him a while ago you don’t. 
You’ll get better responses in a relationship room. This isn’t controversial

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Say no if he proposes. You’re not ready and you’ll hate him for it eventually

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doesnt sound like you're the one foe him. let him go so he can find her.

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If you never ever want kids and he does then that’s a huge life decision. He could end up regretting staying later. Also I’d of thrown in a “I’m not the married type either. Although I’m faithful”. When you say no, it could lead towRd the relationship ending shortly down the road anyway.

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I think you need to be honest with him that you aren’t ready to settle down and may never be.

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he might resent you in tbe future since he does want kids.. first 2 years are honeymoom years, rainbows and butterflies, but after 3rd year is usually biggest test on all relationships and I dont thinknitll end well between the both of you. I might be wrong but I might be very right lol its easier to emd things now than years later

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Better to say no, than saying yes and being stuck.

1 year itch?

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