My “Mom sins” are not sins.

My son is 10 months old. We did the bare minimum on baby proofing, outlet covers and moving all the chemicals up high. My son has lots of freedom; he’s free to explore wherever he wants except my husband and i’s bedroom, even the bathroom! I’m often heard saying “dirt don’t hurt” when he eats something he threw on the floor. We do baby led weaning, so that’s a lot! People look at me sideways when I tell him “go ahead and do it, you won’t do it again” as he’s touching the power bar (surge protector?) after I told him no. I don’t respond to tantrums because I believe that responding encourages the behavior, but I also know how it feels to lose patience. I did modified cry it out because that’s what worked for my son. He doesn’t like to be rocked to sleep, just laid down and told “goodnight, I love you” as I close the door. He sleeps in his own bare crib with a noisemaker on his dresser playing brahm’s lullaby on loop. I don’t sterilize bottles and I use tap water in his bottles. I encourage his love of Minnie Mouse and let him play with “girl toys”. On occasion, I’ll let him have some of my morning tea in his sippy cup. I let him watch Clifford in his high chair at snack times, so I can eat and read a little. None of these things make me, or anyone else, a bad mom! Quit mom shaming everyone for everything they do with their kids. It isn’t a competition. You’re not better than me because you do XYZ with your kid and I don’t. We’re just different. We are both trying to be the best mothers we can and that looks different for each child and each mom. I’m tired of people in my life acting like I’m a bad mom for not “helicoptering” my child.