Why does she get to keep the baby?

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After 2 years of TTC, I decided to go to my GYN (after several years. Bad I know.) and we did blood tests and were starting infertility testing. Surprise! I got a positive pregnancy blood test! Best news ever! Well, 4 days later, I miscarried. At the same time, my husband’s cousin and his wife get pregnant and announce. Now she and I have a rough relationship. She’s not the nicest person. I really try to be nice to her, but she makes it so hard. The whole family cannot stand her. She tries to compete with me with everything. Shes due almost the same exact day I would’ve been. At Easter, she kept complaining about how rough it was and it was all anyone could talk about. Meanwhile, I’m in the corner holding back tears, because I’m empty inside. All I keep asking myself is why does she (this horrible person) get to keep hers and I don’t?! I don’t hate her or resent her. But I’m just so frustrated. I’m TTC again and it’s been almost 5 months. I’m on CD32. I had a negative test several days ago. I’m afraid to test again. I don’t feel very pregnant but I don’t have my usual PMS symptoms either. It just feels like everyone around me can sneeze and get pregnant. I’ve heard all the advice I could ever hear. Just needed a safe place to get it out. Thanks ladies.

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Let it all out, girl. I understand your frustration and hopefully having this baby will humble her a bit.

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It’s your time it’s okay for you to let out all the jealousy anger and sadness out. I can promise you that your time will come my aunt miscarried twice and now she has a baby due in July and she’s known to be very high risk during pregnancy. I just believe things happen for a reason. You’ll be fine and you’ll get to have that baby sooner or later just don’t stress about it too much you take life with a grain of salt.

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Let's hope this baby will help her become a better person.

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The positive?  One day, you WILL have a baby and guess what?  They won’t be anywhere NEAR her kid, not in age, not the same grade, etc.  I’ld look at it as a blessing in disguise.  Her kid could turn out to be awful and influence your child, especially if they are similar in age. Sometimes cousins/extended family can be an even worst influence on a child than outside people. Bad people often times have bad kids too! As hard as it is, try not be jealous!  Just be thankful that when your child DOES come along—they won’t be anything like hers!   Besides, who would want to share a due date?  I sure as hell wouldn’t. It will be your time and your delivery day too.  Forget her! Seriously.

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Maybe this will give you some hope..... BOTH of my parents were considered infertile for various medical reasons and they underwent rigorous fertility treatments for 10 years. They finally conceived my brother using Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) and two and a half years later conceived my other brother the same way. My parents told me how emotionally and physically draining it was and how painful it was to watch all their friends and family become pregnant with a snap of their fingers, meanwhile it took them a decade to finally have a child. But my parents said that all that waiting was worth it. Also, the fact that they were dealing with infertility sparked their desire to adopt and they adopted me from China three years later after my second brother. Then there’s also the spontaneous baby that is always possible. After being told by doctors that my parents would never be able to naturally conceive, with the possibility being around 0%, poof, my sister was born as a “happy accident”! So really anything is possible and miracles can occur in any way as you can see. Don’t give up hope and ignore those bad people around you. Right now, focus on yourself. Your time will come.

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i know how you feel. my partners sister in law announced when she was 3 weeksish and i was close behind her. ee were literally days apart. she is a constant liar and the family dont like her. she got to keep hers and i mmc. she had to talk to me about mine and what happened. and she tried cryin and saying it was pregnancy hormones. i flew of the rails then at her, pregnancy hormones...ill give you pregnancy hormones ive got them still and nothing to show for it. she then said she wasnt allpwed to be ahppy or shpw things off because of me. no i like all the baby stuff but dont purposely do it when im at his mum's house. btw we live an hour away so everyone knows when we are coming over. not like them who live 2 mins away. then she had the balls to say my partner only proposed because i had nothing to look forward to unlike her. he proposed 2 weeks before our due date kn our 2nd anniversary

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I know how you feel keep your head up let go and let God

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Wow we live completely different lives... I can only visualise (imagine) how difficult it truly must be, I can imagine it must get harder and harder to go back again and again, it must feel like such a slap in the face each month, rejection at its worst, omg that must feel so terrible every month, month after month of such a.... BUILD UP each month and then such a HUGE LET DOWN every month, it must get harder every month to go 'another round', it must feel like such a 'punch in the guts', I wish i could help you... my son is a cancer survivor, and that is ONLY thanks to modern-medicine, the area of fertility is massively funded and is making leaps and bounds often and frequently, I have so much faith (omg can't believe I'm using the word 'faith' in a sentence) in modern medicine, and it only gets better and better each and everyday. Maybe it's time to 're group' with your specialist and hubby, and talk about putting a long term 'action' plan together so you can have some idea of what to expect over the next 1 - 3 years, that would reduce your anxiety and fear, and help you focus on your (near) future... Goodluck

Why does she get to keep the baby?

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