Im a SAHM with 2 kids. My SIL rents our basement and has a 3 year old daughter and we share a kitchen which is upstairs where my family lives. My husband and his sister both work full time so naturally I do most of the housework. My issues are with my SIL. She lives downstairs so you'd assume her messes would be contained to down there right? If so, you'd be wrong. lol She comes upstairs to cook lunch for me niece and she will leave all her garbage on the counters, her dishes on the table, and the pans unrinsed on the stove then she will just go back downstairs or leave. It's every single day too, constantly. On top of that she lets my niece do whatever she wants for example; she watched as my niece wiped fingernail polish all over my kitchen counter and didn't tell her it wasn't okay, she watched her spill juice all over the floor and DIDN'T CLEAN IT UP, she lets her hit and kick my dog and scream at the top of her lungs when she is mad even though I tell her multiple times everyday if she screams like that she can't be upstairs. So much more I could go on forever. And I know if my SIL wants to deal with an asshole kid forever that's her deal but I think that I've made it very clear I am overstimulated by her behavior and my SIL refuses to remove my niece from my half of the house because she doesn't want her to throw a fit. And on top of that my SIL often leaves my niece home while she works which is fine but she waits until 10 minutes before she works to ask because she knows I won't say no and leave her with no sitter. I just needed to vent because I feel so drained. I love helping my SIL when I can but lately I'm feeling underappreciated and taken advantage of. I tried talking to my husband about it and he said I should be easier on my SIL because she is a stressed out single mom and she buys me stuff alot like coffee and food so that should be appreciated as a payment for my time but honestly I'd rather feel respected than get a large coffee once a week.