Update: we talked he texted the baby’s mom and said that he hasn’t been fair to me. And he shouldnt be talking to her more than me. Because I’m the woman in his life. Then he suggested us to all go get lunch and talk things out. Her response was “Lol. No. It’s cute you think I’d actually do that”

Okay so my boyfriend has a daughter by another girl (girl is used and you’ll understand why in further in.) this girl also has a son that my boyfriend practically raised since they got together he used to call him daddy. Okay so he and I met 11 days after his daughter was born and the girl and him were not together at them time she was born. He was there for her birth and then he left the day she was able to go home (he was there everyday she was in the hospital.) his daughter is almost a year old now. And he’s missed out on most of her life because her mom refuses to let him see her. Reason A: me , (she either says she doesn’t want her daughter around me or he is stuck up my ass so he doesn’t ask about her which isn’t true.) Reason B: she’s all about money. Reason C: she’s jealous.

He has only been able to FaceTime and visit his daughter at the moms home. Which I know it’s just a way for the mom to see him. Anytime they fight my name is always brought up. She calls me a bitch and says that I have him on a leash and stuff like that. She is very immature. He’s doing anything to see his daughter including having conversations with her other than about his daughter. Day to day conversation. She feels comfortable enough to ask him to come talk to her at work just to talk because he has let her talk to him. He recently has been telling me to stay out of it but it always has something to do with me. I need advice on how to deal with this. It bothers me she so comfortable with talking to him. But he has to make it this way in order to see his daughter without a court order. He is trying to take her to court. But it costs money as we all know. How do I bring up how it makes me feel to him. I just wanna know if anyone else is going through this. And feeling the same way. He’s a very honest person.

Edit: he pays $1000 a month in child support. For one child. She only wants a check from him. A few weeks ago the check didn’t deposit the same day it did previously and she blew up on him. Which the money is directly deducted from his check. What happens after is not in his hands. I know for a fact he isn’t cheating on me. If he was I’d know. And easily could find out, but I trust him because I know her. And how she is. I’ve known her since she was 15.