Is it normal to not want visitors after baby is born?

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So I’m due in a couple weeks! When I had my first daughter, my SO and I lived in a different state then our family. So after she was born my mil visited for a week and a half, then after she left my fil and grandma came for a week. I felt Sooo overwhelmed with having to entertain inlaws  , meanwhile I hadn’t slept or showered in a week and I’m wearing diapers. I just wanted alone time with my baby and SO. We now live in the same state as our family and I’m having anxiety about all the family wanting to come and see our baby after she’s born. Obviously I know they are just really excited, but I just want a week to heal and adjust to having a new baby again. Is it rude to ask family to wait? I know I’ll just be salty the whole time they are here because I don’t want visitors right away. How can I make my SO understand my point of view?

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Not at all, especially if last time you tended to have to host them rather than them helping you. You'll have 2 kids now and you need to rest.

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I will definitely ask people to wait a week or two. My sister just had her baby last week and now the baby has  pneumonia because people can't seem to tell the truth when visiting baby. Its your baby and you should be able to sag when it's okay when you want them around people.

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I didn’t want visitors, but my fiancé pushed it and I let him. I should’ve put my foot down on some things... if I had then his brother’s 3 year old wouldn’t have been hovering over my newborn, coughing and sneezing (her father wasn’t watching her and my fiancé and I wrongly thought he was here to help so we were doing other chores we can’t get done when we’re always watching the baby)... my baby had his first cold before he was a month old and he’s still fighting congestion. It could’ve been much worse, but thankfully our little man is strong!

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Only two people will be allowed to visit me
My mother, because she's in the US and I live in France. 
And my Mother in Law because she's volunteered to help and she's a huge help.
Knowing her she will keep everyone away until I'm ok to receive people.
And even then she will probably take it upon herself to be hostess and leave me to rest as much as possible with the baby.
My husband and I are private people and don't like having guests over unless they are invited.
So yea
Only 2 people who will be with me from birth to home lol
Anyone else wants to visit,
They will have to make a damn appointment lol

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your baby, your rules

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Totally normal. We had such a hard time with sleep and nursing with my first son. I didn’t produce enough and had to nurse every 30 minutes. I had 0 sleep and I just had person after person coming to visit. I was grateful they were excited for my son. I was just so overwhelmed and emotional. It was hard having to pop out a boob in front of everyone with a cover. I was so new to it I didn’t even know how to cover myself up easily and it was just awkward. I didn’t want to be rude and just leave to another room. This time around, I’m not going to be uncomfortable in my own home. If people come over, I’ll have no problem excusing myself to nurse comfortably. I think that’s part of why I had such a hard time with breastfeeding. I didn’t get that bonding time. I had a home birth and had people over just three hours after giving birth and it didn’t stop until he was like three months old. So you set your rules, mama.  Don’t compromise your feelings and comfort.

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Just be completely honest and let them know that you would really appreciate if they gave you a week (at least) to feel better because it was overwhelming last time. I wanted people to see my daughter and had to many visitors that first week and I was so exhausted and I learned I will not do that again. They can wait. You need to be able to nap when you can and start to heal, not focus on having people stop by.

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Completely acceptable! You and baby are both adjusting/ healing. My husband sends our family an email telling them we want them to visit but they are limited to how much time they can spend. If you want to take that first week and not have any visitors that is completely 100% your choice. You shouldn’t feel pressured to entertain so close after giving birth. If they want to come cook and clean and do basic chores while you’re recovering and bonding that might be nice too, especially if they expect to stay for a week!  My parents came for a visit from another state and were here the whole day, I was exhausted. I couldn’t imagine a whole week.

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I’m 24w5d and I’ve asked my family not to come over for the first few days so I can have bonding time with my baby and if they don’t like it then they will just have to get over it. Just remember it’s your baby. It’s not like they can’t ever visit...x

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Why not just set out one day for people to visit? That way, you can’t have your privacy but people can still see the baby?

Is it normal to not want visitors after baby is born?

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