Irritable husband

My husband is so sassy and irritable all the time with me. We bicker constantly because I’ll say something and he will snap at me. Its not enjoyable for people to be around us, I don’t even want to be around us. I ask him why he’s being so grumpy to me “I’m not” or “cause you’re being a brat” “whatever” “I’m not gonna argue”

This morning I was trying to be happy and playful with him and he rolled his eyes and pulled away from me😳

This evening he went over to the neighbors (in laws) to get the hair clippers to cut his hair and I said grab some printer paper while he was over there and I really didn’t care if he did or not cause I wasn’t printing right then and he came back without any and I was very clearly playful (his nephew even acted shocked at how he reacted to my playfulness) and said “why didn’t you get my paper! You was supposed to grab that too silly” and he freaked out getting so ill with me saying “well my gosh I’m sorry! Don’t make it such a big deal”

I tried sitting in his lap to cuddle later after that and he rolled his eyes and said “I was gonna take a nap”

This is all just stuff that’s happened in a few hours today. But he’s like this every single day. He says he’s tired and I don’t understand since I don’t get up at 430am. Tiredness is no excuse to be a jerk to the one you’re supposed to love above everyone else CONSTANTLY. We all have bad days where we’re grumpy from needing a nap but this is literally every single day.

I’m beginning to resent him and not really care if he’s around or not. I’ve talked to him about the issue until I’m blue in the face. I don’t know what to do anymore.

I’m sitting on the couch while he’s in his recliner (which he refuses to sit on the couch near me because he “deserves a chair”) trying not to cry at how miserable I am 😭😭😭😭😭

I try so hard not to nag him. When he sasses at me I try to walk away and ignore it, occasionally I will give in and tell him to stop treating me like this. We will fight and I will tell him how unhappy I am. He says he will change, even tho “he’s not being grumpy” . Nothing. I’ve been wanting to stop just sitting around in the evenings and I’ve asked him everyday this week :

Monday: can we go for a walk? No. I’m not in the mood.

Tuesday: can we build a fire and do s’mores? No too much work.

Wednesday: we went to church.

Thursday: can we take the dog for a walk? No we will tomorrow.

Friday: can we go take the dog for a walk? No!!! I’m tired! Can’t I get a break?!

Saturday: didn’t ask anything of him.

This isn’t how I pictured our marriage being 😭😭😭

*weve been married since August 2017