What to do for a friend who is giving up her baby 🤷‍♀️

Question

So I have a friend that is keeping her pregnancy a secret because she is planning on giving her baby up for adoption. If she was planning on keeping it I would be so exciting plan her a baby shower and help her prepare for the baby’s arrival.
Besides being supportive and being there for her, how else can I help her with this secret pregnancy? 🤫🤰

Answer

I think it’s a great sign that you’re inquiring how you can be supportive. I work in adoption and foster care and would really encourage you to use the terminology “making an adoption plan” or “placing her child for adoption” or “finding an adoptive family” rather than “giving up her child”. I would also recommend asking her if she’d like support as she meets with adoption agencies or makes her adoption plan in addition to just being supportive overall. Just a few thoughts.

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Support her in every way you can, maybe offer to go with her to the meetings and doctors. If she’s the sentimental type maybe take a photo or two for keepsakes. And maybe a care package for after delivery so she has less on her plate! (Pads, pain meds, books/movies/snacks. Maybe some new jammies or a blanket or something.

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I don’t think there is much you can do. I’d be extra careful about it all because you don’t want to cause any hurt or remind her that she won’t be keeping it. Tough spot you’re in. Just listen to her and let her know you understand her decision and pain.

What to do for a friend who is giving up her baby 🤷‍♀️

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