Friend Forbidden to Talk to Friends

Hey all,

I have a friend who has been in and out of bad relationships. The last one was with one of our mutual friends, and I talked to her a bit as that was declining, she was scared. This guy had issues. Nice enough, but she wanted out.

I don’t hear from her in a while and find out that she broke up and got a new Bf right away. Interesting, so I decide to message her. Her first message to me about the situation is that she misses the old boyfriend and wants out of this new relationship. She says she wants to see me and the rest of her friends and we start to make plans to meet and connect and talk things out. The next message is long and she says she didn’t know what she was thinking earlier, she loves this new guy to death, that he “puts up with my dumb ass”, and that she doesn’t want anything to do with the ex. Very defensive. Cool, if that’s how she really thinks, which is what I told her, but I told her I just do want to know what she thinks and feels since I wasn’t informed of the story.

Silence.

Flash forward to a couple days ago. The ex (that is my friend, too) whines to me about wanting her back. Now, the unimportant part is that he wants her back and I don’t think he treated her very well, so he should leave it alone. The key part: she still talks to him sometimes and she has told him that the Bf has told her to cut me and the rest of her friends out of her life. She unfriended me. He said her boyfriend tells her to send things. Which raised my suspicion tenfold for our previous conversation. Makes me believe 100% that the last message was him forcing her to say those things.

I’ve tried to get her attention and message and text on different forms of social media so hopefully she can respond and not have him see. No answers.

Red flags everywhere. I feel like I need to do something. What if she’s in trouble? What can I do?