Where should we have our baby?
Hi everyone it's me again! (I've posted some previous questions before because you're so nice and helpful!)
So, I'm Argentinian and my fiance is North-american. Right now I'm in Argentina finishing up my degree and he's in the States working. We've been trying to figure out where should our baby be born.
Right from the start we decided she was going to be born in the States (we thought I would be there by now, we would be married and I would be insured, but unfortunately my degree took longer than what I expected and I'm still in Argentina almost over). So, there's a chance I won't be insured by the time our baby is due and medical costs in the States are crazy expensive! While in Argentina I wouldn't have to pay a dime (not even copay) cause I'm insured.
What's more, if we have her in the States my family would probably miss it, and I feel a bit guilty cause it's their first grandchild. Of course if we have her in Argentina, his family would miss it cause they don't have the means to fly here...(my fiance already has a kid).
Another aspect to consider is citizenship. I've been told getting Argentinian citizenship in the States is not that hard (but I haven't heard from the embassy yet...). In Argentina getting American citizenship is a bit harder...he has to prove (with paper evidence) he has lived in the States the last 5 years, he has to complete some paperwork for the embassy and e-mail and post everything, then we (parents and baby) have to fly to the capital of Arg for an appointment in the embassy (that we're supposed to get after the papers have been shipped), fly back home, then he has to fly back to the States (after staying in Arg for at least a month without pay), and finally (once the passport arrives) I can fly with our baby to the States completely alone (12 plus hour flight plus layovers).
By now you're probably thinking "then why on Earth are you considering having her in Argentina!"...well honestly I just wanna make my parents happy (like I've always tried to do), I'm also scared of having a baby with doctors I've never met, and then having to pay all the costs of delivery...
So, I have no idea what we should do and I need your suggestions, opinions, experience, etc, cause I'm completely lost and stressed out by this situation.
Oh I forgot to mention I had a huge argument with my dad, he's completely against me having the baby in the States, he believes I can do the paperwork later and that here I would have my family around, and that my fiance should be the one to come and stay foras long as I need him... besides he doesn't want me moving to the States at all, because I would be taking their chances of being grandparents; and he believes I've got better life opportunities here than in the States and that I'm sacrificing too much. let me remind you my fiance has a kid (so we know who would be the one sacrificing the most). Besides I've been dieing to move out of the country for a while now. But he made me feel even more guilty for leaving them behind...
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