Am I crazy or is this the norm?

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Hi everyone! Im 32(turning 33 as the end of May) and my hubby and I just stared TTC last month. I swore I would “just let it happen” and that I wasn’t going to opk, bbt,etc. But... the moment I got off the pill, BOOM, I can’t stop researching, I got OPKs and I have been tracking my temps, I bought pre-seed and I find that now I’m in “what if land”. What if, I’m infertile? what if my husband has a low sperm count? what if I never get pregnant?  I know all of us have thoughts like this from time to time but does anyone else constantly worry something is wrong? The worst part is, I know that over stressing can make it harder so I need to chill, I know. It’s just harder than I thought.

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I’m 31 and my husband and I started trying to conceive late January. When it didn’t immediately happen, I would stress constantly thinking of the worst case scenario. My husband often calmed me down and lots of friends told me stress would make it even harder. This month we didn’t have as much sex, and I wasn’t constantly checking apps and temps. I got my BFP on Monday. You’ll get it too. :)

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Girl, yes. I put myself into a panic attack the other day looking things up!

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Same boat. 35 and hubby is 34. We are in our third month trying (TWW ends Tuesday 🤞). I thought bc we both are athletes, eat superrrr healthy, and don’t drink, that’d it happen like *snap* that. Everyone else was convinced it’d take one shot for us too. And this is timing with OPK strips and everything... so... damn... hard.

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Don’t worry! I’m 38 and just got my BFP last week after 3 months TTC (1 month ‘let’s see what happens’ and 2 months tracking temps, CM and timing BD). It’s hard not to get sucked in but relaxing is key! Enjoy the process! And Baby Dust to you!

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I think that’s normal. I’m 30 and having the same thought process. I would stress over this when I was 20 and nowhere near thinking about kids. My husband says we haven’t tried hard yet. :(

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Hi! We’re similar ages (I recently turned 33). I never realized how hard it is. Had I known I would’ve gotten off birth control sooner. Research has said it can take anywhere from a few months to a year and to consult help after a year. Baby dust to you!

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I feel the exact same way... “let’s see what happens” quickly turned into sex every other day, preseed, fertility tea drinking and opks, and checking temps. We’ve only been trying for 3 months and I sobbed last week when my period came. I think once you decide you want to be a mom, it’s hard not to want it badly. Channeling my inner patience and trying to distract myself daily! The googling can make me more stressed so I try to limit my online researching! Hope this helps you not feel alone!! From my girlfriends that have gone through it all, it sounds like this is all totally normal behavior. Baby dust to you all!!!!

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we had problems with sperm and egg and maca helped us now we are normal. try maca supplements !! good luck!

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Yah, my husband was watching the movie problem child this week randomly and I forgot that the reason they had this child was because her Fallopian tube was black and she was missing an ovary... I was horrified at the thought that perhaps this could happen to us.

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I’m turning 32 in 3 weeks and am the exact same! Temping religiously, Glow is the most used app on my phone, constantly researching etc. I think it’s good to have a good knowledge base, but also know I need to relax and not be anxious about it as that will make things more difficult. 
My first pregnancy ended in a MC so I do feel I have a right to be more nervous about it. 
Baby dust to us all ladies!

Am I crazy or is this the norm?

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