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you may have just outgrown eachother. It happens. when we become serious with someone and things are amazing we tend to think it will always be that way, but sadly things as well as feelings can change over time. The best thing you can do is to put your priority on yourself, do yourself up, feel pretty, start doing your own thing ! Sometimes if a man can find you interesting again it can make things good again. Are you clingy? Do you revolve your life around him? These are things that can wear them thin. They want what they cant have usually, and when they KNOW your all about them it can lesson the interest. ( After the beginning stages.). Regardless of the reason, you will really just have to be prepared that maybe things are just different now. you said he is seeming older, I am pretty sure his needs and wants have changed too then. It really does happen. 5 years is a long time. I know it hurts sweetie and I am so sorry you feel this way. But you also deserve a man that will be interested in ALL of you. I would really concider some distance so ypu both can figure out what is really happening here. hugs !!!
My relationship lately
Hello girls,
I guess I just got on here for advise of to vent I’m not really sure, but I want to talk about my relationship, about a couple weeks ago my boyfriend of 5 years mentioned to me that he feels out relationship has gotten stale and that we don’t have interesting and stimulating conversations anymore. Of course this made me feel some type of way and it was hard for me to hear this coming from him because I really enjoy our bond. And for a little while after that conversation I felt a very unnatural feeling around him like I didn’t know what to say or what he was thinking. It might help to mention that there is a 4 year age difference and I see him becoming more adult like than me and it really bothers me. Lately I’ve been feeling like he hasn’t been feeling my vibes and I don’t think there is a break up coming soon but I defiantly feel something weird. And I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. It has like lowkey kept me up. like where is my relationship going? Do I bore him? Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who even tries to start a conversation. And every time I try to talk to him about it he tries to change the subject ( this is not about him not wanting to talk about it he’s just really bad a communication and gets really weird about confrontation) he’s the type of guy that will start laughing when I bring something serious up. Anyway. I don’t know what do to. I feel lost and kind of alone. I love him dearly he’s all I ever knew and i plan on marrying him but sometimes he makes me feel like I’m not good enough. Or maybe I’m just being insecure. Who knows.. any feedback ?
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ka
You are most welcome. im always down to listen of you need it. And YES! Just become your very own woman. That will help you feel so much better. You seem very smart , and put together even thru this. wouldnt it be nice to just wave a damn magic wand and make everything make sense ??? lol.
Be
Yeah, I have been thinking about how his needs are different now. And I feel like maybe your idea might help, I have been working on this lately. I’ve been trying to tell myself that time with him isn’t always what we need and your advise is greatly appreciated. And helpful. Thank you and I will see how things play out. Obviously these things take time and energy from both parties. I guess I just have to become my own woman.
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