How do you cope with failed treatment?

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Hi Everyone,
I am on my 5th month of treatment. First 3 months on clomid and then on letrozole. I just found out today about our second failed IUI. I felt so positive this month. Everything seemed to be falling into place. But now I’m finding it difficult to pick up the pieces and go to my next appointment to discuss next steps. How do you ladies who have dealt with failed treatments cope? How do you find the strength and courage to get up, go to work, act like nothing is wrong? I did it today but now I’m home stewing in my own emotions and am so frustrated. 
Thank you in advance!!

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It’s hard, but you just know that you have to keep going. I just found out that our 2nd IVF failed earlier this morning. I am heartbroken. I thought for sure I was pregnant. I know exactly what you are going through. Over the last 5 1/2 years, we’ve had so many failed attempts 2 IUI, 2 IFV’s. I know my future baby is out there. I am not ready to give up. And that is what keeps me going. My future!  I hope the best for you. Communication with your partner is key, too! ❤️🙏

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I say I hate to be a negative nelly but I go in expecting the worst and hoping for the best.   I got my hopes up the first few months and it broke me.  
Literally at each of my IUI’s I am asking about next cycle while on the table.     And we are now moving into IVF and I am also compiling adoption paperwork so I have my next route of action should IVF Gail.

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I was on Femera six months and couldn’t take the devastation any more. I went off for a break and two months later I got pregnant. Not saying you should stop or that taking a break helped just giving a little hope. My daughter is now almost four and we are on chlomid trying for a second baby.

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I always got my period 12 days after IUIs, exactly 2 weeks from my trigger. Usually I came home early from work, took a shower and I snuggled in bed waiting for my hubby to come home. The 2nd IUI I felt very defeated that’s when my hubby said we’re doing IVF, IUI no 3 I didn’t have any pressure.

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I cry first, and then pray to God

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I cry and I get mad and angry. This usually lasts a week. After I grieve, I slowly get back on the horse and start to have hope again. It’s so emotionally exhausting, and my SO isn’t the greatest at empathy. I think it’s harder on us than it is on the men, but maybe that’s only my experience. I know I get mad at him and irritable easier right when I find out it failed again. He always says “we can try again, it’ll be okay” etc but he doesn’t show emotion and I feel so alone when I’m sad about another cycle and no BFP. 😥 GL to all you ladies out there. Baby dust for everyone ❤️

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I spent about an hour in denial, and then I tell my husband and I cry 😢 Then, we order pizza and snuggle on the couch together...sometimes cookies too! I spend a few days grieving and then I’m ready to get back on the horse!

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