Is anyone staying with you after birth?

Question

I have a funny situation where my aunt (who never had kids) and my mother in law (3 kids and 3 grandkids) both want to stay with us after our baby is born. Personally, I don’t want anyone staying with us while my husband is home from work for the first 2 weeks. I just want my husband and me to have time to enjoy our baby. This is our first, so I don’t really know what I’m getting into. It’s fine with me if they come visit in those first weeks, but I don’t want them spending the night. Mostly because my MIL is very critical of everything I do, so that wouldn’t be good mixed with hormones. 
What do you recommend if you’ve already had a newborn? They both live nearby so I can still ask for help if we need it.

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You can tell them you appreciate their offer but you would like for you & your SO to enjoy your new baby and bond with them and have time with just the three of you. You can tell them they can can over and visit but you would like them to not stay over. I'm sure they'd understand.

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I’m not even having visitors for the first few weeks. Everything is sore, your hormones are crazy, and I hate feeling like I have to entertain. Learned my lesson after my first.

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You are going to be bleeding, your boobs are gonna hurt, your you’re going to be figuring this whole thing out... those first few weeks are hard and even though having company was nice I would tell everyone that I could handle about 2 hours tops then they’d have to go. I loved the time I spent with just my tiny family of 3 now 4 soon to be 5

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My in laws live in europe and we absolutely won’t have them over for the first couple of months. We told them if they want to come they have to get an Airbnb 😊

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All of my family was in a different state with our first. But i asked my grandma to come stay with me and be there. But she’s also my best friend so there wasn’t tension or annoyance of her being their with us 🤗💜. I say if you want to be alone during that time with your husband and baby that’s perfectly fine I think he decision is like most parenting ones and that’s what works best for your family.

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Have them come visit during the day. Staying is too much.

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My MIL and FIL assumed they’d be down to stay at first and be present for the birth. I informed them that wouldn’t be happening and they may come when the baby is a few weeks old. I don’t want company and I don’t want to have to share the baby with anyone beyond my husband at first. Also, if I wanna breastfeed in my living room, without a privacy shield, I want to without worrying about my visitors walking in.

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My mom is coming from another state for a couple weeks but hubby isn’t taking anytime off work and he works midnights so for me i need the help

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This is exactly my situation as well. My mom & grandmother are extremely overbearing so I’m going to ask them if they want to come to come after hubby goes back to work which would be a month after baby is born. I want hubby to bond with his son the first few weeks as much as possible since he didn’t get to do with our first child.

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Don't agree to anything yet. Thank them for the offer and tell them know you will let them know if/when you might need any help. Most of the time for the first 2 weeks you and your husband should be enough on your own but it might be nice for them to drop in during the day to help clean or allow you guys to have a nap or something. You'll be suprised how exhausted you can be in those first few weeks. You might want the extra help. So definetly keep the option open but don't give them the idea that it will for sure happen because its hard to say how you and your husband will feel during those first weeks until you're living it.

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