am I the only one who hates it when people, especially women, say this? one thing I cannot stand is when someone in a relationship says they don't like doing [x], which is typically some sort of sexual act, then another person will be like "oh well if you won't do it, he'll find a woman that will!" and will go on about how their partner will leave them and how they better do [x] unless they want to be cheated on.

first of all, this mindset is disgusting and absurd. not only is it sexist and degrading to both men and women, it's also basically saying that you must do whatever sexual desires your partner wants or they'll find someone else. that's not how a healthy relationship works.

everyone has preferences and things they like/dislike. no one is obligated to perform any sexual act for their partner if they don't want to. If they don't want to, their partner should respect that, like a decent human being would. If they go off and cheat because of their partners choice, they're vile and don't deserve a decent relationship.