No effort

My husband has never put any effort into holidays/birthdays for me. He never plans anything and will ask me what I want to do days before. I’m tired of telling him what I want to do or go, it’d be nice for him to plan something on his own and/or surprise me every once and a while. For instance, Mother’s Day is Sunday. Absolutely no plans. We have a 2 year old and a baby on the way. Am I asking for too much?