Giiiiirrrrlllaaaaa.. ☕️🐸

i’m posting anonymous because the court proceedings are still going on. so my husband was married previously & has two children with said baby mama. she hasn’t been letting him see his kids because she claims we aren’t serious because he was with her for 12yrs (really like 7, but she keeps counting other time) & she’s not letting go. she really said she’s gonna hold on until “we’re” done & until then, he can’t see his kids. So i got to thinking, well maybe he’s leading her on?? NOPE. He said it to her face that it was over & also they hadn’t been together for more than 3yrs. we, literally, met & we’re engaged & planning our wedding within a year (he told me I don’t take shit from him & make him want to be a better man for himself & me & our continuing family). When he calls to speak to the kids, she’ll start asking prodding questions & then get mad when he hangs up on her, claiming it’s disrespectful. when she asked him for sex & he said no, her response was “you cheated on me, so why you can’t cheat on her?” like because he knows he’s gonna lose me?!! she got upset because when he went to spend some time with his kids finally, i came to ensure my husbands safety (& also respectfully introduce myself cause that IS my man & she also has a history of calling the police on him & he already has a record & done time because of the situation). she also tried to tag along (i wasn’t going as well) & he got so pissed off, he never even took them anywhere. so now she’s taking him to court to increase his child support because she cant have him back & i’m gonna be right there next to him because fathers ARE NOT second class citizens. mind you, last year she called giving a sob story about how her & the kids were about to get evicted & could HE send her money to pay her rent. because she’s not a grown woman who was gonna have to pay bills anyofuckinway but whatever. we offered to have the kids come live with us until she gets back on her feet because we have a 5bdrm house but noooo. it feels like shes using the kids as a pawn because that’s all she ever says.. “but i got ya kids” but when she’s not getting her way, they’re solely her kids. I’m not saying that child support is wrong, but how do we stop women from abusing the system like this? & It’s crazy because we have bills to pay ourselves & it would be cheaper & waaay better for them to live with us (hubbys past charges are stopping us from getting full custody, nothing to do with children, just bad decisions in early adulthood). If you can’t afford the children, stop acting like they don’t have a whole other parent when YOU LAYED DOWN WITH THEM TOO.. Nobody can force you to have a child, period. & If you’re going to do so, the least you can do is understand that the relationship btwn parent & child is very vital in shaping that child as an adult. & That’s all I want, for his children to be able to see their dad & spend time with him. & When we conceive ours, i want them to be able to come over & continue to spend time with us. I’ve only met them once & we’ve been together for a year & some change (he’s literally my twin flame, it’s so fuckin amazing, yet creepy) & I was really looking forward to getting to know them & seeing him in that light. Shit sucks..

*edit* She moved 6hrs away spitefully & he works full time so its almost impossible for him to see them unless she brings them closer which, of course, she refuses to do unless it’s something she wants to do. we also have to go to court where she lives (on a weekday, which we now have to take off for or they will suspend his license & job).