Consummating marriage

I have been married for four months and my husband and I have not been able to have penetration sex yet. We are both virgins so the first few attempts were hard find my hole and after several attempts he would go limp. One time I thought we got it in and because of the pressure I was feeling but when he “pulled out” he said he was barely in and that he didn’t feel anything and from pushing/thrusting his penis began to hurt from bending. I assume because he wasnt in the hole? Now in month four we attempted tonight and he kinda gave up and said he’s lost interest in sex. Is it because we haven’t consummated it yet? This is so difficult and frustrating. Please help.