Rape victim now a Mum and paranoid

A bit of a background history about myself, I was raped when I was a child. I lived with my aunty in Africa and her husband raped me when I was 10 years old. Do you know my worst mistake after the rape was? It was me telling my aunty about it. I was labelled a “witch” and was told that I had “come to destroy her marriage”. My aunt beat me mercilessly and burned a part of my body(would rather not disclose where so I would not be identified with it). I managed to escape from the house and my mother brought me to Canada. Fast forward to years later, I hated men and sex. Until now I still hate sex. I am married. Bless my husband, but I hate having sex with him. He has been very supportive. We have a daughter, but I am very paranoid about any man coming close to her even my husband. I wouldn’t even allow my husband to change her. I watch closely when any boy or man wants to carry her. I just don’t trust anyone. I am very paranoid now. How do I overcome this fear? Have anyone experienced this before? I just feel alone. People see me and think I am “stuck up” or “rude”. They do not understand the pain inside me that has been bottled up for years