Did you always feel comfortable at bf’s house? Hi

I have been dating my bf for 5 years. He was my first bf and I at first I was terrified of his parents and always felt like I needed to dress nice, not eat too much and smile/laugh always so they would like me. Well here I am more mature and I still feel like I’m trying to get them to like me. His parents often make comments about my clothes/ hair but not like I’m dressed inappropriately or have crazy colored hair but for some reason they find that if I am over dressed in a sweatshirt/leggings watching a movie can say I dress like I am homeless... most recently I was ft my bf and his dad comes over and says how crazy my hair looks instantly. These comments I let go but there’s other that I’m still like why would you say that. Does anyone else feel like this? Has anyone dated one guy and felt like this and then with the next bf had a completely different situation. I’m not sure if it’s because of me or the guys family/him? Like I said I never dated anyone else but not sure why I have felt like this for 5 years. My bf tells me his parents love me but their actions and words don’t at all