Gender Disappointment

Hi, everyone! Today my husband and I found out the gender of our baby and we’re having a girl! 💗

We are both very happy we have a healthy baby on the way. But, we couldn’t help but feel a bit of disappointment. Typing it out right now makes me realize how silly that is. We were so lucky to have gotten pregnant in the first place.

We were both really hoping *and feeling* it was going to be a boy. My husband was dead set on having a boy, and was very vocal about it from day one. A little back story- he has a 5 year old daughter with a woman he did not have a relationship with. He was not included in any of the pregnancy (she didn’t know for sure who the father was). He didn’t even know until weeks later she was born. He was kind of thrown into fatherhood, with someone that treated him like he was the "bad guy". We’ve been together since his little girl has been about 1. Him and his daughter have a hard time connecting, and growing a relationship. His daughter and I have a close bond, she is very attached to females prominently.

I’ve also been wanting a boy and been "feeling" it was a boy. When the technician told us it was a girl I was in shock, it felt like a dream! I did try to keep an open mind during the beginning of my pregnancy, because it is a 50/50 chance. I had in the back of my mind this whole time it might be a girl, and I’d be happy with either!

Honestly, today I’ve been picturing my life with a little girl and I’m soooo excited and getting over the initial shock.

However, I think my husband is still definitely disappointed. I tried to ensure him that he will be super dad too. I want it to be half and half. She will be daddy’s little girl. He hasn’t expressed much excitement. I tried to bring up names and he’s like "whatever you want to name her". Acting disinterested. 😔 it like took the wind right out of his sails. I understand where his hesitation is coming from (with his relationship with his 5 year old), but this is something we couldn’t choose. Of course, you get over it and thank God for the gift of life!

I guess i would like to know if anyone else has experienced gender disappointment or if their spouse has. Any advice? I know I can’t force him to be excited? It just makes me upset that he is.

Also, this is my raw and honest personal experience. Please no negativity or judgment.