I have a toxic job. Not the job itself but my boss directly. She’s manipulating, vindictive, and somewhat paranoid. She’s made up lies about me, undermining my choices and authority to my employees, but to my face always makes sure to tell me “thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it” blah blah blah. I’ve put up with it all, I’ve brushed it all off, and I’ve moved on. Through anxiety when coming in from not knowing what kind of mood she’s in to biting my tongue on disagreements, this one takes the cake.

I’m a manager at a hotel. I’m basically on call 24/7. If I work an 8 hour shift and someone calls out, if there is no one else to cover, I’m in. Just last week I had to work an 11pm-7am shift. I would have worked earlier that day but took the day off to take my mom to the doctor but nonetheless I was up 25+ hours and still had errands to run after only getting two hours of sleep. I put in my work and sacrifice. My only comfort is knowing that I get two days off a week with my husband. I don’t ask for weekends or holidays, because I have my days with him.

Well now, my boss wants me to change my days off. She wants me to shift them to the end of the week so I can work with her more during the week. This will mean that I will not have any days off with my husband. I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant with out first child. I decided to take the summer off school so we can enjoy our last few months of just the two of us and get to enjoy the summer with our nieces and nephews. This job stresses me out so much. It is such a toxic and hostile environment that if I were to change my days off and never get to see my husband or spend any days with him I know I will be a miserable wreck. She won’t budge, she isn’t being understanding and is just basically like “well I need you” I’m so mad. I’m so depressed. There is really no NEED for me to change my days off.... I just don’t know what to do...